Oh Merry
Your mother is being so conned! Do you really think the elders of the JWs actually shun their own DFed family members? I wish!
I've never been a JW, but my husband was DFed before I met him, and I pray every day for deliverance from his family--if only they would shun him! And his brother is the presiding elder of their entire region!
They've been having fun now for 22 years, smiling to my face, while they sneak around behind our backs with his DFed ex-wife, trying to get my husband to take her back, and she was DFed for having an affair with his best friend, who got DFed too. I don't even answer the phone when they call anymore--thank god for caller ID!
I wrote a letter too...for all the good that did!
Let me know which kingdom hall she attends and I'll be happy to go there myself and address the congregation.