My visit with my mom.

by purplesofa 10 Replies latest jw experiences

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    My mother and I have not been close in adult years. I was baptised in 1986.......thinking all the bad stuff she did to me, I would see her destroyed at Armeggedon. She was baptised in 2000.......How could she be in my religion? What was my ace in the hole?

    She was very gungho so I stayed away from her..(aux pioneered last year)...She told my daughter that her and I werent really JW'S. (we watched R rated movies)

    OK...........so I call my MOM, after not talking for ages........and go visit her over X-mas holidays.

    She is already fedup with the Witnesses......she said I am learning what to say and who to say it to. She said everyone is a gossip. There are cliques. Everyone talks about being sick and depressed, She told me for the first time in her life she was depressed.

    She had a problem with a brother coming on to her and went to the elders........not to tattle, but for help on how to handle him.....she was new in the truth. The elders acted like it was her fault and she got no help, she said she would never go to the elders again. She said all the young kids at the hall are weird. lol........I just had to laugh. She is a very outgoing person, loves life and things to do. She hardly does anything anymore. She said they go on and on about how bad TV is.....she thinks she will lose her life for watching something on TV.

    I told her God has alot more things to worry about than what you watch on tv and not to worry about it. He does not micro-manage.

    We stayed up till 3am and when we woke up we continued where we left off.

    She was here a few weeks ago and we had another conversation over a nice lunch at Outback. She just could not get it all out of her system.

    I said to her.............I knew you would figure it out some day. I know you Mom and I knew you would get tired of it, just did not know how long it would take.

    She is coming again this weekend. She says it is the truth, but got off the pioneer list and misses meetings now. She said she would not push herself anymore.

    Talking about all this with her has opened communication that we have not had in 25 years..........I have copied some things from this site to share with her on her weekend here........

    Thanks for all your posts!

    purps

  • hubert
    hubert

    Thanks for sharing that with us, Purps.

    It looks like you are going to have some good times with your Mom, after all these years. I'm happy for you.

    Enjoy.....Hope you tell us how this coming weekend goes.

    Hubert

  • jonsey
    jonsey

    I just wished mine would see the same light...I just hope that it does not take 25 years. Purps...you and I must have been baptized about the same time...

    MJ

  • sf
    sf

    I envy you in many ways. Yet, I also don't.

    {{{ hugs }}}

    sKally

  • jwfacts
    jwfacts

    Thats great news. Maybe this will be the thing that can bring the two of you closer together, as you will need each others support with out the congregation. You know your Mum best, though I would suggest to take it slow with the 'apostate' stuff as it may have the wrong effect if delivered too quickly. If she is already fading that is already a great start.

  • jwfacts
    jwfacts

    Sorry, forgot it is MOM not MUM at the top of the world.

  • geevee
    geevee

    According to your stats, your mother must be ancient!! If you are 86 now and she has been in since 2000, she must be over 100 years old, and some brother is coming on to her!!!! What gives?
    Just joking,
    Hope that it works for you and your mother...

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    Thanks for all your nice comments...........

    I agree that I cannot blast her too hard, save the meaty stuff for later......learned that from the Witnesses!!!

    I will let you know after this weekend how things go.........

    Thank-you everyone,

    purps

  • Legolas
    Legolas

    I hope it goes well for you!

  • willowmoon
    willowmoon

    Purps, so glad to hear this!

    A mother - daughter friendship can be so special. Enjoy it!

    willow

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