draft letter - editorial comments?

by wasasister 29 Replies latest jw friends

  • wasasister
    wasasister

    sorry to bump my own post, but for those who asked, here is final version:

    Dear Brothers:
    I have been deeply troubled over the Society’s policies in dealing with child molesters in the Congregation. Having been an active Witness for over 35 years, I have had occasion to see the tragic results of this policy. In most cases, a person accused of such a crime would likely not be found guilty by a judicial body unless there were two witnesses to an individual act of molestation. If not found guilty by a judicial committee, the accused could keep their privileges within the congregation; the accusation would be kept secret; and the victim’s family would be discouraged from - or even ordered not to -speak of the incident or report it to worldly authorities.

    Recently, the following letter from you brothers came to my attention and I quote:

    There are, however, many other situations that are connected with the abuse of a child. For example, there may be just one eyewitness, and the brother denies the allegation. (Deuteronomy 19:15; John 8:17)... In these and similar cases no entry will be made on the Child Protection List. Rather, information should be kept in a sealed envelope in the congregation’s confidential file as described below. When such individuals move, the Congregation Service Committee should write a letter addressed to the Society’s Legal Department seeking advice as to whether to communicate the details to the new congregation.]

    I find the foregoing very troubling. Although your letter appears on the surface to express concern for protecting children, you again refer back to the same criteria for establishing the truth of the accusation.

    I do not see how the “two witness” rule from the Mosaic Law applies to Christians, or to any sex crime, especially where children are involved. Even in the Mosaic Law, there were to be exceptions. Sex crimes, are by nature, secret. Your letter quotes Deut. 19, but just three chapters later, we read this about the crime of rape:

    *** Rbi8 Deuteronomy 22:25-27 ***

    25 "If, however, it is in the field that the man found the girl who was engaged, and the man grabbed hold of her and lay down with her, the man who lay down with her must also die by himself, 26 and to the girl you must do nothing. The girl has no sin deserving of death, because just as when a man rises up against his fellowman and indeed murders him, even a soul, so it is with this case. 27 For it was in the field that he found her. The girl who was engaged screamed, but there was no one to rescue her.

    So, the girl in the field did not have to cry out…why? Because no one would be able to testify as to whether she did or did not scream. Where are the two witnesses? Keep in mind, this was a capital offense and the accused was subject to execution.

    Brothers, as a parent and as a long time member of several congregations, I can testify that this policy has brought harm to children and their families. Sexual predators victimize children because they know little ones can be threatened into silence. Often, these young victims keep quiet until they become adults. This is why the secular authorities in many areas have dropped the statute of limitations in such cases. Also, it has been well established that those who molest children will often repeat their conduct, moving to different areas should they come under suspicion.

    Your long-time policy has been to let the congregation handle such matters internally and ONLY if a judicial committee finds the accused guilty is any action taken. I respectfully suggest that this is a criminal matter and is part of the authority granted to “Caesar” to deal with. Our poor overworked elders are frankly not qualified to discern the truth of such crimes. Remember, those who use children in such a way are often master manipulators and skilled at deception. Let the governments deal with these individuals; let their trained investigators determine the validity of a complaint; let their psychologists assist the child victim. Unlike other judicial matters, such as adultery or homosexuality, the secular authorities view the act of molesting a child as a crime. Would the elders risk interfering with an investigation, possibly tainting material witnesses?

    The scripture comes to mind in Philippians 4:8:

    Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste, whatever things are loveable, whatever things are well spoken of, whatever virtue there is and whatever praiseworthy thing there is, continue considering these things.

    Yes, we should be “considering these things” NOW. What could possibly be of more serious concern that attacks on our precious children? Should we not put their interests and well being ahead of any possible reproach on a congregation or organization? Is this not what a Loving Shepherd would require?

    I offer these comments in the sincere desire that you alter your approach to dealing with accusations of child molestation. Warn families who might be exposed to these individuals; turn such a person over to “Caesar” to be dealt with; be supportive to families who choose to seek outside help in dealing with the trauma; and most importantly, admit that your past conduct has been in error and try to make amends.

    Most sincerely,

  • WildHorses
    WildHorses

    wasasister, you can use my name if you'd like? Just click on the e-mail and I will reply with my name.

    Lilacs

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    Lilacs!

    See? Even if wasasister says "No, thanks" or "I've got it covered", that is why I LOVE this board!

    It's a fine letter, Wasasister!
    Thanks for sharing the final (or close) version.

    outnfree

    Par dessus toutes choses, soyez bons. La bonte est ce qui ressemble le plus a Dieu et ce qui desarme le plus les hommes -- Lacordaire

  • Seeker
    Seeker

    An excellent letter, was. My only comment, and it's sad to even have to point this out, is that your final paragraph does not have the usual obsequious tone that sisters need to use when making requests of brothers. Yeah, yeah, I know, but think of your audience. They will read that last paragraph and think you are telling them what to do (which you are), and get pissed that some sister dares to do that.

    Sad, but true. If that is the response you want, fine. If not, and you are trying to "reach their hearts" (ha!), then I would make minor adjustments to the final paragraph.

    I couldn't care less, but I'll bet HQ will. You know how Pharisees get...

  • LoneWolf
    LoneWolf

    Howdy, Wasasister!

    Heck, why don't we all sign it? We could send you emails authorizing you to type in our names at the bottom. The more the merrier.

    LoneWolf

  • Tina
    Tina

    Seeker,lol
    You have a point there sweetie lol.
    Tina-Dusting off her Bowin and a scrapin' to da Massa's 101 textbook. (It came with a free headcovering!)

    Wuzzy,feel free to use my name if you like! My letter isn't as good as yours.( Gonna do a major re-write anyway) luv to all.T

    Carl Sagan on balancing openness to new ideas with skeptical scrutiny..."if you are open to the point of gullibility and have not an ounce of skeptical sense-you cannot distinguish useful ideas from worthless ones."

  • ozziepost
    ozziepost

    G'day was,

    It seems to me that your well-expressed letter will be of more value to those who read it here on the board than the recipients who we have come to realise wear blinkers! Thanks for posting it.

    I'm saddened to hear of the reasons why you cannot sign your name to the letter. That says much about the conduct and nature of the WTS. (Or should I say the Christian Congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses?) Mrs Ozzie and I can sympathise with you perhaps more than you can know over the situation with your daughter.

    Our warm regards to you.

    Cheers,
    Ozzie

    "A lie which is half a truth is ever the blackest of lies"
    ALFRED, LORD TENNYSON, The Grandmother

  • Liberated
    Liberated

    Well done, sister, excellent scriptures to use!!

    My first reaction was: publish it in the newspapers!!!

    My next reaction was: sign my name to it.

    My final reaction was: let's ALL volunteer our names, like a petition. Would that be enough signatures for them?

    Libby

  • wasasister
    wasasister

    Dear Seeker:
    I think I forgot how to be "obsequious" somewhere along the way out. If I had even used the word obsequious in commenting, some elder would have told me I was being a show-off.

    Anyway, thanks to all who offered to lend their signatures. I am sincerely moved by your offers. If any of you want to, use the letter as a template and modify it to suit your circumstances - then sign your own names and send it.

    I have decided to use my first two initiats - Seeker, then how will they know my gender? - and my last name, which is quite a common one. I will probably also mail it from another location.

    This letter may do no good at all in changing the attitudes or conduct at Brooklyn. However, it was a cleansing experience for me to be able to express these thoughts and hear what all of you thought.

    Thank you, thank you, for the freedom to express myself openly. Darn, it feels good to be free.

    Was

  • ozziepost
    ozziepost

    Lurkers:
    Take note of wasa's comment:

    Darn, it feels good to be free.

    Cheers,
    Ozzie

    "A lie which is half a truth is ever the blackest of lies"
    ALFRED, LORD TENNYSON, The Grandmother

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