by JH 23 Replies latest jw friends
Although I've been bapized back in 1988, and never was disfellowshipped, the last time a JW came over here as a friend, was about 15 years ago. Oh, and I'm not shunned....
The only Witnesses who knocked on my door in the last 15 years, were elders, in "uniform" in the field service.
Now, imagine if I was really shunned.....
faded in 89.
Apart from a couple of Ex dubs and a sister that I bumped into at work once (she started to cry and made me cry lol) Ive not seen a soul from the org.
I left because in my heart I believed I was so usless and bad that Jehovah didn't want me in his org, so he isolated me until I was completly on my own so that I'd have to go elsewhere for friends. Looks like he still doesn't want me back !
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Never...they've only ever come to the door when they are out in service. They can't seem to be just friends, they have to be able to count their time. I don't think of them as friends any more.
Out of sight out of mind.
I did notice one thing in relation to this when I changed congregations, very few if any of the people in the old congregation kept in contact with me after I started going to another congregation. Occasionally, maybe one or two would still do something socially with me, but for the most part it was
Out of sight out of mind
Blondie
Last March ! I have never been disciplined by the congregation and only started fading since November . But the only time witnesses come by my house anymore is when they want me to do something for them . Never a friendly visit . And I've been in this hall 26 years ! The few that use to come by moved , or are slowly disappearing themselves . So much for the wonderful bond of love we are supposedly known for . I use to be the one that tried had to have people over, welcome new ones, ect.Then I began to realize it was never recipocated and that I was really just a chump .
remarkably, 4 days ago. my old best pal is coming around. :)
We had a JW couple that spent 6 months, trying to show us how they had the "truth" and all the answers. (Of course, we already knew quite a bit about the org. and we had our questions lined up.) The gentleman had many instances of a light bulb going off in his head, but it wasn't until his wife, a chatty lady, had the light bulb go off in her's, that they were told to discontinue our study sessions. I imagine she went back to the KH and yakked about the experience a little too much. However, they told us they would still like to be friends and we could still get together for dinner, etc... We called them to see if they would like to, figuring they would turn us down......but they DID go with us! We had a great time. And do you know what?! They did not talk about Jehovah or the brothers and sisters at all! They talked about their families, their interests, etc... It was great! I pray they find freedom one day.
JH here in Westmont I never seen any JW the don’t like this neighborhood don’t know why?????????
As a teenager, I had a couple of Witness friends around my age and we would visit each other just to hang out and do the kinds of things normal things friends do...I'm sure this happens occasionally in the Org as a whole. But as we became older and I became more "spiritually mature" I found myself mentally labelling more and more people as "questionable association", including the few real friends I used to have some fun with. One friend I remember also became "spiritually mature" like myself, but we were both too busy with "Kingdom interests" to spontaneously do things just for fun. We sure did try hard in convincing ourselves that field service was the most fulfilling and fun activity a human being could possibly do.
What could have been real meaningful friendship came to be gradually replaced by the pseudofriendship of the more "spiritually mature" JWs, those of us who saw ourselves more distinctly in spiritual warfare. It's the law of attraction you know...even within the Org you are inclined toward those who are like you. For me it was the kind of people who's idea of spiritual assistance is spying on each other and calling each other only when someone's missed a meeting, or you need them to sub for you on your talk that night or take care of your bible student this weekend because you're going to the quick build. The kind of people who generally you will only ever see at the congregation picnic or your door if they happen to stop by out in service (on a morning you've slept in) or on a sheperding call (when you've been missing meetings).
a girl i had been best friends with since I was 6 visited me at my place a few times on her lunch break, we had a good chat about whats new with her life and old times, haven't seen her in awhile although I did invite her back, but another witness found out so I doubt she will be back
