No help from the JW brotherhood?

by greendawn 13 Replies latest jw friends

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  sass_my_frass

  If I was better with words I could describe how it makes me feel; that we were taught that the only place we'll find true friendship, love and support, is within the congregation, but at the time we needed it, it wasn't there. I now know that it was a control mechanism, just about everything was; that all of our needs could be met within the organisation, still... you have to have those needs go unmet to see through it.

  There are people who do get help; I'd say, in my mother's congregation, they've all rallied during a time of tragedy and they look after one another. People fall through the cracks though, and I guess every one of us were some of them.
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  Calliope

  interesting fact... now that my other-half and i are seperating, my family is pressuring me to talk to my elders. like "they should know what you are going through. they'll be able to help you."

  another fact... it's been 12 months since my other half da-ed himself, and they haven't spoken to me since then... so why again should i initiate a request for their assistance? they're likely to reprove me anyway cause i don't have the "grounds" for a divorce.

  then i was told, "well if you don't talk to the elders, why don't you call bethel?"

  uh... wtf?
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  yaddayadda

  Yep, totally. Most elders are useless. Ezekiel 34 seems to sum them up.
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  Gordy

  During your time as JWs were there times that you were in need for some help from the JW brotherhood but felt let down because no one cared to help you? Did you feel resentful and began to suspect that this org is heartless and hypocritical?

  At a time when I was at my lowest point, depression, attemptted suicide etc. Not a single JW offered to help me get through it. Their answer was attend meetings, do more field service. Eventually they separated me from my home and family and the grounds I was a "spiritual danger" to them. Moved to another congregation. This above all things made me start to question the Watchtower. As I always had believed and had been taught it was "Gods loving organisation" that the proof we had the "truth" was that we had love among ourselves (John 10:35) But at a time I needed that love it was totally missing, I received not one "shepherding call" Even my own wife was only concerned with her standing in the congregation. Eventually this led to me looking into JW teachings etc. So that 3 years later I stopped attending meetings. Then a year later I became a Christian. I disassociated from the JW's. This meant that my JW wife and two daughters no longer would have any contact with me, which is now 5 years. I have always said that if they had said "We'll get you through this. Get you back on your feet." Given me the support and love, they were supposed to have, then I would probably never have looked into their past and teachings and still have been a JW. Nor would it have led to two of by children also disassociating because of what happened. Its also another example how JW's shoot themselves in the foot. They think it brings the person back when they cut them off. All it led to was a broken family and a loss to themselves. Plus making those concerned make sure as many as possible learnt what the Watchtower and JW's are really like.