I need help. Someone give me the words.
My brother's wife recently had a baby. She was DF'd shortly before their marriage but is attending meetings. My parents are overjoyed at the new grandchild. I have been DA'd for 7 years and have two children my parents have never bothered to meet. My ex recently took my daughters to visit my parents, brother, his wife, and my new nephew. This is against 3 court orders the court issued to counteract shunning and it's use to alienate my daughters from me.
The court ordered that as long as my parents shun me, they are to have no contact with my children through my ex...all JW's. This is regularly violated and I can't afford to go back to court to continually regulate this.
THe court ordered that my ex cannot take my children to my parents home as my father molested me and this was admitted to in court by my own mother who said I was "over 12" and "old enough". The judge told her to take her pious attitude and leave and he had a recess because he was subsequently ill. Alot like I feel now.
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"Mr. M shall not directly or indirectly expose or allow the children to be exposed to shunning of their mother, or to engage in any family contacts or religious activities that directly or indirectly suggest or expose them to teachings, scriptural interpretations or declarations that Mrs. M is anything less than a good and honorable person and fully worthy of designated, implied, inferred, promised, reserved, assumed, or otherwise available, obtainable or receivable, so called spiritual blessings or rewards which might be obtained or available to faithful religious persons, including faithful members of the JW church. This shall include his exposure of the children to family members, church teachers, preachers, or other advocates of the JW church or to any condemning doctrines or activities. Mr. M shall not have, suggest or cause any religious communications with the children, advise them regarding religion or direct or advise them regarding what their personal conduct or religious activities should be, or monitor their activities to determine if they are in compliance with his religious beliefs, while they are with Mrs. M."
"The court believes this conduct negatively affecting the children's relationship with their mother should stop or be condemned. This church judgementalism, coupled with the malicious use of false accusations against their mother and her husband by their father, has nearly frightened these children away from their mother and her husband een though she is a sincere caring mother. Mrs. M is treated as spiritually dead by the JW church and the extended family who are members.
This ridiculous concept of people judging others appears to be a strong part of the religious judgementalistic doctrine and is apparently required of the members of the church."
"...so long as these children attend church and are indoctrinated in the "only true way" as interpreted by that church, they will continue to be
exposed to negative judgmentalism and derogation of their mother...Mr. M's religious zeal has apparently caused him to justify his past gross
misconduct in this case...."
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My father is now phoning my cell phone and sending photos of the new baby. I have spoken to my daughters about conditional/unconditional love and the difference and the arrogance of shunning and it's effects on all of us in this mess....especially my two younger children who cannot and should not meet their grandparents. They should have a chance to meet their only cousin. He said my daughters had brought up the fact that I feel they don't love me. This is not what I was saying. I told them true love isn't conditional and that I was not going anywhere just because I don't sit in a Kingdom Hall anymore. I was not disfellowshipped for any wrong-doing, to set the record straight.
My father is asking that I not give the older children the impression that they don't love me because that puts them in a strange situation....the situation they created by abusing me and then shunning me conveniently. How do I answer this? I am at a loss as to their involving my daughters in breaking the law, ignoring my rights as their mother, putting first the demands of an organization who has no interest in their welfare by exposing them to a pedophile who is active in the congregation, and the list goes on.Give me the words...please.