Letter from the Grave---Right on time.

Sparkplug

I found this note in my computer from my Gammie and I thought it was so timely. She died last year in June. She had a way of telling you something. She kind of draws you in then slits your throat with wisdom. Read this and perhaps you will see what I mean:

She would get the biggest kick that a bunch of EX-JW's Will read this.!
I grew up with a practical parent, my mother, God love her, who ironed Christmas wrapping paper and reused it, and who washed aluminum foil after she cooked in it, then reused it. She was the original recycle queen, before they had a name for it.
It was the time for fixing things...a curtain rod, the kitchen radio, the screen door, the oven door, the hem in a dress. Things we keep. It was a way of life, and sometimes it made me crazy. All that re-fixing, reheating, renewing, I wanted just once to be wasteful. Waste meant Affluence. Throwing things away meant you knew there'd always be more.
But then my mother died, and I sat in my kitchen that Sunday afternoon reading her old handmade cookbook in a binder. I was struck with the pain of feeling all alone, learning that sometimes there isn't any more. Sometimes, what we care about most gets all used up and goes away...never to return.
So...while we have it... it's best we love it...and care for it...and fix it when it's broken...and heal it when it's sick. This is true...for marriage... and old cars... and children with bad report cards...and dogs with bad hips... and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it; because we are worth it.
Some things we keep. Like a best friend that moved away...or a classmate we grew up with. There are just some things that make life important, like people we know who are special... and so, we keep them close!

freedomlover

what a wise grandma. I actually needed to read that today. thanks for sharing it.

juni

Enjoyed that Sparkplug. I'll be 57 this month and things are so different now than when I was young. A lot of people aren't satisfied with what they have; always want more. Also, we live in a "throw away" society. Discard good food that could be used for another meal, perfectly good items (but not the latest), not placing value on friendships, but throwing it all away because of some petty disagreement.

I'll get off my soapbox, but Gram's words of wisdom should always be remembered. Juni

simplesally

Very nicely put, thanks for sharing!

arrowstar

Please excuse me while I go find a box of tissues....

Super_Becka

Your grandmother was a very wise woman, she certainly knew what she was talking about. We take so many things for granted, friends, family, material things, sometimes we need someone to put things back into perspective again.

My mother sent me a link for a .wmv video about parents and getting older and being patient and loving and appreciating what we have. Take a look, I think you'll find it very appropriate. It goes well with your grandmother's wise words.

www.paete.org/movies/ParentWish.wmv (I hope the link works!!)

-Becka :)

Es

well put, you had a very wise grandmother.

es

myself

What a treasure you found, that is a legacy. Thank you for sharing it, I loved it.

Sparkplug

freedomlover- she was my adopted family when I was Df'ed the 2nd time. She was my rock. Now if there be angels, I have always said I have a real ornery one watching me run. Probably she would stand there and say, "See its gonna make you strong." Instead of helping me out.lol

Juni-

we live in a "throw away" society. Discard good food that could be used for another meal, perfectly good items (but not the latest), not placing value on friendships, but throwing it all away because of some petty disagreement.

Is that not the truth? I always have the biggest complaint that I fot treated like a dispoable wife or girlfriend. Dump snot in her, wipe you hands, toss it..Grab another. I hate that mentality. I really do. I keep hearing you get tougher and I seem to be going in the opposite direction. I really do. WHERE is THE LOVE PEOPLE??

Sally!! So suprised to hear from you. tHat might be a first. Well, actually I was thinking of you today and all the things we miss in our sisterhood of women that go thru so much. So, I found this prayer that Gams gave to me. Let me tell you a story.

""""quite a bit back I went through a divorce and had not prayed in years. I don't really know if I believe or not. So I went to this stupid page that I always teased Gamms about posting on...A HOLY ANGEL ONE. So I post this prayer, GET THIS: WITHOUT MY NAME ON IT! and I had never posted on this forum she used before. I thought they were a bunch of quacks. still do. I told no one.(mental note.)

I pray for my family. Please God keep my children safe and watch over them and myself as we face a time of change. Please give me strength that I may maintain an upright life and not allow anything to rob me of my joy of loving them. Give me knowledge to be a good mother, not just good but great. Lead me in all of the ways I was never taught so that they may grow up sound of mind and heart. Please God forgive me for my sins. Watch over my husband and please take all the Hatred from his heart. Be it that we are parting, please help make him whole again. Please help me forgive him. Someone told me today not to tell you about how big my troubles are, but to tell my troubles how big my God is. So I am going to give it a try and the first thing I need help with though is believing you are there. Please Give me faith. <<< Amen > >

SO HERE IS WHERE IT GETS GOOD. Pay attention Sally...

Later that night away from the forum and in my email which was not linked to that page, I got this from her:

This is a special prayer request from a special lady, God knows her name. I (We) love this young woman as dearly as if one of (our) my children. I do not often do public prayer but this this time I shall. Father, You know her heart is full of love for you, as I know it is. You have brought her thru so much Father, please continue to give her strength to fight the evil of this world. Please back off all evil and darkness from around her, that she may do what she has to do. Please answer her petition to you. Thank you for bringing her into our lives. I claim her as mine, because long ago you sent her to us. Show those that cause her and her (child) children pain how big You are and how big Your Son is, over powering the darkness of the those that would hurt her. Please put a wall of protection around her and her children that evil cannot penetate, as you continue to pull her ever closer to you. Father, You know I rarely say that I want anything. I want this young woman and her children safe and to have peace only You can give. Wrap Your wings of protection around them please Father. In the name of your holy Son, Jesus the Christ I do pray. All things to Your wisdom, Your power, Your mercy and Your glory. .........Bettie

Freaky huh? Well I was thinking of you and cancer and your daughter (that you showed a picture of ) and I actually slipped a few words to change who it was addressed for and I think you were here (sent to this forum) and so many people love you here. So I pass this poem from Gamms to you.. She would have liked that then probably would make some wize crack about I cant seem to stop witnessing.

Lisa- Now girl, there is no more skin on your nose, nor mine. So we have to stop this crapola of tissues and crying. I am woman hear me roar! Smooches...right?

Super Becka- I am going to post this and then go to that video now. I took so long because I had to take all those delimeters out of the email postings in the prayer. What a pain in the bumm.

BRB

Decki

P.S. forgive the typos this time. I have excessivly making them today. I am now running on 40 or so hours with no sleep and only two hours on Tuesday night. Monday was not so good either. Too much tissue on my nose. (Lisa, suck it up! ) So really I have not had sleep and while typing my fingers drift off and I feel a bit dizzy. I hope I pass out soon because I can't seem to go to sleep on my own.

Sparkplug

Oh Crapole- SUPER BECKA just got me. PAss the tissue Lisa Come on girl! Dayumm. and Hell. Sniff Sniff. This hits home because I really never had that love for my mom and now I am forced to be patient as she takes 30 minutes to talk to her damn bird before I take her to the store to get the special spagetti sauce that has a twist top on it. Oh and then hear the full dialog that she had with her poodle and what her fat mutt said back. So I needed to feel something even if not induced by her. Much better than the stressed out bit she gives me. It was kind of like watching a Holleywood story on old people. Made you feel all good while watching the fairy tale.

I tell you what. Elderly are not that sweet while they get old. I have been to the older peoples apartment and they are the worst. This old man found a corner to tan in and he actually wears this thong..red. My mom walks her dog back there a lot..HHHHmmm?

I cant believe I liked the words better than Josh Groban. I have some of his works ( believe it or not) next to Marilyn Manson and Antigone Rising, Bruce and Les Miserables soundtrack ..OH and ...and... a kick bumm poetry slam from Big Sur in my MP3.

I really have wanted to post this poem reading here for a long time..But I do not know how to get a song onto a space on the net...Anyone know?

Es and myself- Thank you. I am so glad someone still benefits from her writings.

Decki

Letter from the Grave---Right on time.

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