by lola28 22 Replies latest jw friends
Okay am I the only one that has noticed how many people have shown up here during the last week or so asking for advise regarding dating a JW? So whats the best advise you have to give people that are dating witnesses?
Post it here.
Mine would be
1.Run
2. Move to Canada
3. Join the witness protection program
lola
Honestly, I think people date Jehovah's Witnesses because on the surface they seem different in all of the right ways: Personable, respectful, family oriented, kind, principled, of moral fiber... I could go on.
I think the board does a good job of sympathizing with people. Truly all we want from a love interest is to be challenged, understood, valued and appreciated as the unique individuals that we are.
I realize that you are joking with your reponses, but the human component in the requests of these people begs of our sympathy, our humanity and our understanding. It isn't an opportunity for bashing a way of life that we once embraced, but is one to help someone see the choice that many of us in similar circumstance didn't realize we truly had.
CHL
He,hee yeah Lola I've noticed the same trend here.
Lets see I think my advise would be similar to yours only:
1. Run and never look back
2. Move to Aruba it's Canada is and cold!
3. Become a Catholic *pretend*
CHL, yes I was joking but then again it is three in the morning and I can't sleep. However I also understand that there are many here that are dealing with this situation. I have been here long enough to understand that this is a painful subject for many, and I am glad that I have never had to deal with this issue. So yes my answers may not have been serious but I hope that others out here that have dealt with this have good advise that might help someone.
lola
Good question, lola. I've chatted with a girl on another forum that has been 'dating' a JW for the past two years. She thought his morals and ideas about 'saving sex for marriage'...ect, refreshing. But when I asked if she had met his family or any of his JW friends, she said, 'no' .
I pretty much told her that unless she joined his religion and everything that entails, that what he has given her was probably the best he had to offer.
lisa
Perhaps find out as much 'apostate' information as possible and challenge the witness on it, that way you could find out for sure if the witness really wants the religion or not, if they don't then great.
Rather than just walk away from the witness who they are dating, give them an ultimatum, atleast then there is a chance they could stay together.
Marry the girl & live happily ever after or run screaming into ones beard?
When presented with a picture of JW womanliness what is a non-believing male chauvinist pig to do?
Advantages : Obedient, clean, compliant, out at meetings and field service most days, arrives home randy and filled with pent up sexual frustration and desire..
Disadvantages: Completely arround the twist ..could become depressed, suicidal ..
Do not become unevenly yoked!
You cannot change a person. The person has to want to change.
If you love the person that much, be ready to make a lot of concessions.
Hmm, I noticed that there are lots of fellow JW-daters registering and posting of late, too. They're coming out of the woodworks!!
As for advice, I'd say:
1.) RUN!!
2.) RUN!!
3.) RUN SOME MORE!!
Granted, I'm probably the world's biggest hypocrite for saying that - I'm still dating my JW boyfriend, almost three months after signing up on this board and having reams of people telling me to head for the hills. Heh, what can I say, I'm a glutton for punishment.
Hehehe, as much as I like the advice to move to Canada, I have one problem with it - I'm from Canada, I'm already here, but I still managed to find myself dating an American JW!! I'm tellin' ya, if they want you, they will find you, whether you're in Canada or not!!
-Becka :)
Words to live by.......*Flock of Seagulls*
And I ran, I ran so far away.
I just ran, I ran all night and day.
Brooke
