by jojochan 31 Replies latest social relationships
Thank you Sherry. just a side note she was not a witness. The cd was a burnt copy of a r&b compilation of songs, which in fact if memory serves me; I gave back to her already. I made earlier posts about that subject already, it's a good read. Hey, with all this drama around...
who needs t.v?
jojochan.
Hi JoJo,
I'm sorry for your broken heart...but it sounds like you still love her, from what I've read. If you do, have you told her this? Can you?
I'm going to be the "hated" one on here with what I'm about to post...but I think it should be said. If you scratch, lose or hide the CD on purpose (assuming it's in your possession) and if it's hers it does several things. First, it creates "hate" in your heart that may have not been there or even make the "hate" more intensified. And who wants to live in hate? Hate only creates negative feelings that can mess you up for quite a while. Second, destroying something that's not yours can and will sometimes bite in the ass later. For example, I broke one of Dave's (aka AlmostAtheist) rocket launchers out of anger to "get him back". But after we reconciled I have felt very bad from then on. Even after I bought him another one, and he doesn't think about it, to this day it makes me feel bad for losing control. At the time it "felt" good to get even...but I'm paying for it even now.
This is just my humble opinion...take it for what it's worth.
Ok, now I'll quietly sneak back out..
For example, I broke one of Dave's (aka AlmostAtheist) rocket launchers out of anger to "get him back". But after we reconciled I have felt very bad from then on. Even after I bought him another one,
I'm sorry, I got a chuckle out of that one That was sweet that you were able to get him another one.
but the thing is I still love her,but telling her would'nt work. I tried, and all she said was," Yeah, well...you'll get over it. They all do."
See what I mean? I finally came to the realization that I was used as a stepping stone emotionally. And I loved every minuite of it.....
until last week.
jojochan.
Yes, I think Dave gets a chuckle out of it as well...and so do I...to a point. But it was a lesson that taught me that real "pay back" comes at you one way or another.
I still love her,but telling her would'nt work. I tried, and all she said was," Yeah, well...you'll get over it. They all do."
See what I mean? I finally came to the realization that I was used as a stepping stone emotionally. And I loved every minuite of it.....
until last week.
It sounded like you did...but, like others have said, there are "other fish to catch". And you sound like you have a good heart and soul. So true love will come eventually. My advice would be to try to move on (which I'm sure will be hard) and get out there and find the "right" person. Who knows, she may be doing you a favor and you'll find a person that's "right for you". And take back control of your "self" being...don't be the stepping stone. And don't become a person that steps on others (which sounds like you wouldn't anyway), but protect yourself from being trampled on. To me, she sounds like she's made her decission...and I'm sorry you have to go through this, but you will get through it.
Anyway, good luck. You deserve a happy life...we all do.
Thanks F.F that made my day. I totally agree on those points.
jojochan.. the waiting.
Don't worry too much there are plenty of women around it won't be long before you find another one.
hey jojo,
it's been awesome to see your metamorphosis during your trial/ordearl. she has no hold over you!
and just a thought from a woman's perspective (and i'm not saying this is all women), but it appears to me like she's playing mind-games with you. it's not like she can't go out and buy a new one. it's a friggin CD!!??!? it seems to me, she's trying to make you feel bad.
keep your coaster.
cheers.
calliopé
it appears to me like she's playing mind-games with you. it's not like she can't go out and buy a new one. it's a friggin CD!!??!? it seems to me, she's trying to make you feel bad.
keep your coaster.
cheers.
That's what I thought too. But oh, well... I feel that I'm above all that. She needed to act her age and not her shoe size.
thanks! and the beers on me!
jojochan.
see, i would send the cd back.. but first put in the microwave for a while, trust me, its the coolest thing youll ever see and it does no fdamage to your microwave... but the cd,... ha ha, shell need a new one...
i recently came out of two year relationship, and at the end realized, i dated a child for 2 years.... so im good now, met someone amazing on this site... and am just looking forward to finally getting to be with her...
the infamous one
JoJoChan you have my utmost respect. You've come out of a destructive religon shining. You have so much potential. The world is your oyster.
You deserve some one so much better. Someone worthy of you. Feelings won't fade for her overnight but now at least you can begin to look at the relationship you had objectively. Learn from and it and keep on growing.
Realise and acknowledge the things about your personality and your body that truly make you unique. And women will begin to notice them also. This I can assure you of.
Regarding the CD do whatever you feel necessary for closure. It can be something as simple as mailing it without postage paid and making her pay for the postage when she gets it. Returning it without issue. Or whatever helps you move on.
Luv ya babe.
