I used to wish that my parents had never met and married. Of course, that meant I would never have been born.......... What a way to get out of the abuse I grew up in. Now I would just wish that I had loving, non-JW parents.
Blondie
Ctrl, Alt, Delete.....
by bikerchic 22 Replies latest jw friends
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Frannie Banannie
I'd use "control-alt-delete" on the WTS. That'd solve ALL my problems in that area. (wriggles eyebrows)
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luna2
My do-overs are a mix of JW-related stuff and just regular life stuff.
I wish I could have been more focused on school, college, and finding myself a career instead of boys and dating in highschool. That wasn't so much of a one-time decision but a pattern of behavior and thinking that I'd like to have changed.
The JW moments are very clear. I could have told the sis at the door that I wasn't interested right off the bat, not started a study, and then not given up so easily on my return to college when finances got tough (I quit school without a second thought when money got tight because I figured the end was coming soon so it was a "waste" of time and money anyway). The second JW moment I had was when I resumed studying after a several month hiatus. I'd stopped studying because my husband (who I was separated from) was making noises that he wanted to reconcile on his bi-monthly weekend visits to see the kids, and he was completely creeped out by the JW's. Turned out he was just playing me...it was a way to get sex. Sunday afternoons, when he'd be packing up the car to go back to Ft. Knox, all talk of repairing our marriage would stop. Took me a month or two to finally figure this out...dumb, dumb, dumb. Anyhow, I almost said no to re-starting the study but then decided to give it another shot. I wish I'd gone with my first instinct instead of deciding that becoming a JW was a good way to find direction after the failure of my marriage.
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misanthropic
:: I wish I could have been more focused on school, college, and finding myself a career
Did you even have the choice? I know when I was growing up, college was frowned upon and in my family focus was placed on making sure you would make a "good" wife for your husband. I would have loved to have been encouraged to pursue an education while still a kid, instead of still trying to complete my education now.
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luna2
Did you even have the choice?
Its complicated. My parents didn't have a lot of money, so I got mixed messages. They recognized the value of an education...but not so much for girls. They wouldn't have denied me if I'd strongly pushed to go to a four year school, but they were much happier that I chose to go to a jr. college and live at home. I definitly felt the money pressure and thought I was being a "good" daughter by choosing the more frugal option.
Jr. College felt like an extension of high school, though...I had a hard time taking it seriously. I was also working a fulltime job while trying to carry fulltime credits. Then I got married and pregnant right away. I'm not sure what in the world I was thinking.
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serendipity
I wished I had been a bit more adventurous when young, and willing to make 'worldly' friends. I would have had more fun.
I passed on an opportunity to move to California, because I wanted to stay close to my extended JW family, thinking we were such a close-knit family. I found out how close knit over the years, and especially after I became a single parent. They were SO HELPFUL (insert sarcasm icon here). I'm ready to disown them.
The good thing about not moving was that I got involved with a man who became the father of my child. Being a mom has definitely been the highlight of my life so far.
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misanthropic
:: I definitly felt the money pressure and thought I was being a "good" daughter by choosing the more frugal option.
That says alot about you. You seem like a very thoughtful person.
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