Weirdest guy I've ever dated?? Well, I've had the grand total of two boyfriends in my entire life, one of which I'm currently dating, and I think they both rank pretty high on the weirdness scale:
Boyfriend #1 - high school crush, first boyfriend, cheater
This guy was definitely an oddball. First and foremost, he's an actor - amateurly in high school, and he's currently studying here at my university for a degree in acting - so, no offence to any actors out there, but actors tends to be a little "weird" overall. He was also socially inept, he really doesn't know how to deal with people, so he's always cracking some weird, dumb joke, but it's very obvious that he's uncomfortable around groups of people.
Also, he's a member of the Salvation Army, meaning that he is staunchly opposed to drinking and sex before marriage. When we first started dating, he said that he admired that I'm a virgin and that I don't drink. The fact that I've never had a drink before was, apparently, one of the main things that attracted him to me. He said he could never date someone who drank, not even a little bit. And he's very religious and goes to church every Sunday and has a special uniform for church and attends a church group, and all of that. His family is also very religious - his parents are very active in the Salvation Army and his three older sisters are all youth pastors and married to pastors.
Funny thing about this guy - he'd swear like a sailor, watch the most violent movies, play the most vulgar and violent video games, and then look down on someone for having a glass of wine with their family during Christmas dinner. Nice.
Remember how I said that he admired my abstinence from sex and alcohol?? His current girlfriend, the one he cheated on me with, is a party animal, heavy drinker and sex fiend. Hmm.
Boyfriend #2 - Internet guy, long-distance, American
This is my current boyfriend, and he's one of the weirdest people I know. He's a university graduate with a good job and his own apartment and car and all of that, he lives comfortably and never has to worry about money, has everything that he might want or need, but he still had the mentality of a 14-year-old. How he can take care of himself, I don't know, his maturity level is way down. He is able to take care of himself well, though, his apartment is clean and tidy, he pays his bills on time, he has everything that he needs and he even had a cat, so he is competent, if not mature.
He's also a Jehovah's Witness, need I say more?? He's beyond socially inept, there's no word to describe how socially stunted he really is, he has absolutely no social skills. He doesn't understand a lot of basic social functions and he had no idea how to interact with people. He's also very judgemental about a lot of things - blood donors (like me), holidays, seasonal decorations, people who celebrate anything and enjoy it, etc. - and all of his biases and prejudices come from the WTS, so I don't blame him for them. He's also highly sensitive about any bad-talk about the WTS - he gets very defensive if he perceives any attacks on his faith, even when no attack is present. He nearly bit my head off when he brought up the failed 1975 prophecy and I said that I'd heard of it.
He's also never had a girlfriend before, so in a lot of ways, he's just like a horny teenager. Hey, he's 28 years old and I'm his first girlfriend, this sort of thing should've happened 10 years ago or more, but nope, he hadn't even kissed a girl until I kissed him, and believe me, it was very obvious - that wasn't a first kiss worth remembering, that's for sure. He's trying to learn the ropes on dating and relationships and all of that, and as little experience as I have with dating, I look like a dating expert when compared to him. He's surprisingly good with some aspects of a relationship, though - he definitely knows how to treat a girl and make her feel special and loved - but he's still learning the ropes on compromise. So far, the only one compromising is me, so that's gonna have to change.
So it would appear that I'm a "weird guy" magnet, if nothing else. I also seem to always find myself tangled up with conservative religions.
I think I'm wearing a billboard that says, "Wanted: Weird, inept guys from conservative religions, call ###-####, ask for Becka".
I don't even know what it's like to date a normal guy!!
-Becka :)