Digeridoo. Am I an alchoholic. That is a question that I have thought a lot about. And I really don't know the answer. I definitly share some of the traits though. I suppose that if I am then really truly admitting that to myself is an important First step. That is a difficult thing to come to terms with.
If you've thought about whether or not you are an alcoholic then my suggestion would be to find your local AA meetings, every city has a number of meetings and you don't have to be an alcoholic to attend, 'the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking' is what is often stated. You'll not find the stereotypical park bench types of alcoholics, I was surprised to find 'normal' every day people, all of whom had a drink problem.
Nobody will call you an alcoholic, as it's self diagnosing. There is no commitment, nobody asks for your surname and you don't have to speak if you don't want to, just listen. If you approach with an open mind and try one meeting, or possibly two or three and you don't like it nobody is ever going to chase you up. If you decide that it isn't for you then try alternatives for those who haven't crossed that line into alcoholism.
You may get some identification and it may help you to decide whether you are an alcoholic or not.
It is difficult to come to terms with, at the same time once I finally accepted what I was it became more of a release as suddenly there was an explanation for my drinking years.
For me the only way to solve the drink problem was to surround myself with people who had solved the drink problem, to find out how they had done it and copy them. It involved action, I couldn't find those people by sitting at home and continuing to drink.
Alcoholic or problem drinker I wish you well, my advice would be just to approach either with an open mind free from the stigma, which is something that you have started to do by posting here.
