Who do you love more? (page 3)

Apostate Kate

Well here's the thing;

A man needs to know that he is everything to his wife. He needs to know that she thinks he is the bomb, the STUD, the fixer of everything broke, the king of the cabin, a man needs this. It is all in how you manifest the love. If a woman loves her man she is going to learn how to show it to him in the way that he can receive it. Then he will have a deeper love and compassion for her love and commitment to her children.

Men may come and go, but your children are your children forever. But to all live in harmony a man needs to feel like a man. He needs to be respected by the children, biological and step children. The parental unit has to stay united and support each other.

Now if one person is asking the other to sacrifice the children...well that's a very bad situation. Then a parent may need to chose the child over the partner. I've been in that situation and it ended pretty ugly.

beachbugg

I guess I'm the odd man out here...and a little scared to say it but wth...I love my husband more.

I have a 12 year old daughter that I love very much, don't get me wrong, and maybe it's not fair to say "more" because it's a different love.

In a few years she'll be starting her own life...and it will be my ever-lovin husband that I start and finish every day with.

He says the finishing is a whole lot better than the start......bedhead is sexy on tv but I am SCARY in the mornings (think CeCe Deville).

sandy

I don't have any children yet . . . But if I did I would give up my life for my child, any child actually, and I know my fiance feels the same way.

And the two of us would give up our lives for one another as well.

I believe if you marry somebody with kids it should be someone that believes all children are precious and all children's needs should come before parents/step=parents own desires and needs.

So I don't think the question: "Who do you love more?" should ever be asked.

Stealth453

Kids all the way. I love my wife very much, but our children are part of us, and I know my wife feels the same.

That is a good thing.

nicolaou

I have three children but I have to say that the bond I share with my wife is special.

We got married as naive but in love teenagers, far too young and far too brainwashed. The journey we have shared over the past twenty three years has been incredible. Of course we had the usual ups and downs but we also both had to grow up. Then there was 'the Truth'. I'm not even going to attempt to tell the story now but the end result is that we are all out of the cult and happy.

My children will never be able to understand what my wife and I have been through but I'm glad of that. We two share a connection that stems from common roots and a journey shared, sometimes it only takes a twitch of the nose when we're in company to say 'are you thinking what I'm thinking?'

The posters who've said that the love for a spouse and the love for children are different have got it spot on. I'd die for my children, but I desperately want to live for my wife.

Robdar

The posters who've said that the love for a spouse and the love for children are different have got it spot on. I'd die for my children, but I desperately want to live for my wife.

Very well put, Nic. Thank you for sharing such a lovely thought.

Sparkplug

The posters who've said that the love for a spouse and the love for children are different have got it spot on. I'd die for my children, but I desperately want to live for my wife.
Very well put, Nic. Thank you for sharing such a lovely thought.

It is not a matter of more to me. I guess if I had a spouse it would just be different if I had to define it. Very different but they all have in common that I want to do the best by them each.

serendipity

I'd die for my children, but I desperately want to live for my wife.

Hi Nic,

That is a beautiful thought! I hope you've shared that with your wife. I bet it would make her day. It'd make mine.

snarf

Definately the children, the love for them is unconditional. I have seen many people, including myself, recover from horrible divorces from spouses or bad breakups with their partner, but a child will always leave a lasting impression on your life, whether taken away by death or seperated from you for whatever reason.

kid-A

It certainly makes evolutionary sense that an adults devotion and love would be more intense for a child than spouse, after all, its the child carrying the DNA, not

the spouse. Having said that, and with no desire nor inclination whatsoever for having children, I will happily give 110% of my love and devotion to my wife !!!

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