We celebrate our 20th Wedding Anniversary this week.

by nicolaou 17 Replies latest social relationships

  • nicolaou
    nicolaou

    Like most of you we never did the birthday or christmas thing and so over the years Anniversary celebrations were grabbed as a real chance to wrap presents, get festive and party. This habit has carried on and there's a small mountain of shiny gifts all waiting to be torn open on April 5th. Okay, the kids are bit older now (18, 16 & 12) but we all still make a fuss of this one day.

    We'll be going out for a slap up meal tomorrow night, just the 5 of us at our favourite curry house. God I love my family!

    This year means so much to me. It was six years ago that I put my last field service report in and for the next three or four years things were really tough. My wife is sweet and so large hearted and it hurt her so much that I was rejecting the 'Truth'. Doctrine and belief have never mattered to her, it was the social thing. All her family are very active. Her Dad was the P.O for years and is still an elder. One of my first posts here sums the whole situation up - http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/3771/1.ashx

    Anyway, this year marks the first complete 12 months that even my wife has not attended meetings! She does want to go to the Memorial, she just cannot face giving her parents that particular dissapointment, but she doesn't want to go alone. I don't blame her, can you imagine walking into your old Kingdom Hall on Memorial night after a year away?! So if she insists on going I'll be at her side. My love for her is greater than anything else.

    One year, and who knows it might be this one, we will be completely out of the cult but in all honesty I can say that we are already free - and my family have never been happier! I hope one day I can introduce you to my wife, I know you'd like her.

    Until then I'll leave this message here for her to find in the future and I make no apologies for the mush;

    "Baby, I love you. Sorry for the tough times I put us through. I want you to know how happy you make me every day. How I think of you and see your face when I'm out at work in the freezing cold and dark mornings. You've blessed me with three beautiful kids and twenty years of fun, laughter and mischief! Now let's grow old and freaky together!!

    You're the greatest!"

  • cognizant dissident
    cognizant dissident

    That was so sweet Nicolau!

    I would give anything to have my husband write me a note like that. The only paper he ever hands me is a service report slip to fill out.

    Anyway, it's great to see a couple come through this process of leaving JW's and come out the other side together and in love. It gives me hope!

    Happy Anniversary

    Cog

  • Frog
    Frog

    oh nic matey, your words to your wife are just so sweet & precious...i'm sure you must make for an absolutley perfect husband (if there is such a thing!).

    congrats on your upcoming wedding anniversary matey, what a milestone (of is that milstone?? hehe j/k) it is for you both! Full credit to you both for riding out some of the toughest times no doubt any marriage could possibly go through.

    hava great celebration together, make it special, a night to remember! frog x

  • unclebruce
    unclebruce

    A beautiful post nic,

    Thanks for sharing.

    unclebruce

  • deeskis
    deeskis

    I'm married 20 years this year too.

    your note makes me feel all mushey, and I don't feel mushey very often anymore!

    Best wishes for the future

    D

  • luna2
    luna2

    That was lovely, nic. Happy Anniversary!

  • freedomlover
    freedomlover

    Awesome NIC!!

    I am so happy for you and your family. I hope we can meet your lovely wife one day soon.

    ITIS and I have our 11th anniversary today! (april 1st) So funny to see how much has changed in a year. Last year on our tenth we were ready to call it quits, then we leave the cult and things have never been better in our marriage and our lives individually.

    So happy for you, have a great anniversary!

    -freedomlover

  • delilah
    delilah

    Happy Anniversary, Nicolau. What a beautiful post....I hope your wife finds your words to her, soon. They are touching!!. Here's to another 20 years,

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    that is absolutely wonderful... sure made me smile..

    I'm so happy for you

  • gumby
    gumby
    She does want to go to the Memorial, she just cannot face giving her parents that particular dissapointment, but she doesn't want to go alone. I don't blame her, can you imagine walking into your old Kingdom Hall on Memorial night after a year away?! So if she insists on going I'll be at her side. My love for her is greater than anything else.

    Damn dude....you almost make me wanna be gay, ya bastard!

    Seriously, that was an awesome post and one helluva attitude you displayed.

    I would also go with my wife in a heartbeat we're I in your shoes. I'd be so damn happy if my wife was as yours is at the present. Going to memorial isn't going to harm you or her. The only thing that happens is the 'friends"(tm) start getting their hopes up that you two showed up......only to be let down when it ceases again.

    I went to my grandsons first talk because I wanted to be there for his big event( in his eyes). The only thinged that bugged me was I didn't want anyone to think this was going to be a regular thing and to get their hopes up saying things like..." it was so nice to see gumby at the meeting" to my wife and putting her in a spot to have to answer.." don't worry, he's about as apostate as you can get still...he only came for his grandsons talk".

    Anyway bro....congrats to you and the missy! I'll have 34 years this Nov.....and with the SAME wife!

    Gumby

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