What was the last straw? (page 2)

Thegoodgirl

Interesting to hear your stories. Mine is a culmination of little events:

-generation thing

-suicide of a friend in the congregation

-everyone going off to a university except for me

-preaching on stifling hot weekdays in empty trailer parks when we darn well knew no one was home. I said What the heck am I doing out here? Where is everyone my age? Where did everyone go? Why do I feel like I am the only person left in town?

-that song "Landslide" by Fleetwood Mac ("I've been afraid of changes, cause I built my life around you...But time makes you bolder, children get older, I'm getting older too..")

-the disfellowshipping of my little sister. Now "NO ONE puts Baby in a corner!"

zeroday

I have a cousin that was a long time elder. Very arrogant and controlling person. Very verbally abusive to his wife and 3 children. Always lorded his headship over them. Well, a person can only take so much abuse and during their frequent arguments he slipped up and told her to get a lawyer. Being the good JW wife she was she did just that and divorced him. No spiritual grounds mind you so neither could remarry. He stepped down as elder, that or be removed. His entire power base disappeared overnight. No elder, overbearing husband and father and no nookie. About 1 year later seduces a single sister and they both go running to the elders crying "we didn't mean to, and oh by the way I guess we can get married huh?". JC convined and they both walk out with a "PUBLIC REPROOF" and get married. That was my last straw. His argument to the JC was his wife had no right to divorce him and deny him his marriage bed.

jambon1

I really felt a gross lack of love amidst all the petty minded issues that went on.

Got sick of the 'take our shit & the onus is on YOU to be forgiving'

Got tired/mentally weary of the 'nothings ever good enough' mentality - I did feel guilty all the time.

Realised that 'god', if there was one, would never approve of d/f, blood issue etc etc.

Realised that there could not be a god because of the masses of suffering found in generations of human existance. - If I was what he claimed to be, not 1 child, not 1, would scream for mummy because of a rapist.

Realised I was happier without the WT shackles on mind & heart within 1 week of stopping meetings, thus, I will NEVER return to that unhappy, depressing, time of my life.

Undecided

Past Truth

Present Truth

New Light

This showed me that "The Truth" isn't real, so why give my whole life to an organization like this. I got overloaded with all the responsibilities of being an elder and quit years before I saw the Bright Light.

Ken P.

FreeFromWTBS

Two Elders showing up to my house telling me that if a women could not prove she was abused, they would tell her to return to her husband.

Dismembered

What was the last straw?

When retards get elected as "elders".

Dismembered

greendawn

The lack of real Christian love among the so called brotherhood, and the dictatorial attitude of the org decent people do not refuse to discuss ideas with opponents and argue with them and either win or accept defeat if their position proves indeed to be wrong.

Why does the WTS fear criticism so much if they have as they claim the strongest position regarding the truth? If they are the only truth?

ferret

Well I was having doubts about the "truth" and stepped down as an elder. Shortly after was df"d and never had a desire to go back, Since then I see new evidence everyday that tells me it is not the truth.

ferret

Oh by the way I fogot to say welcome poodlehead.

tall penguin

I read the elder's manual. The legalism struck me as completely unchristian. As well the power it gave elders to pry into the personal intimacies of congregation members was disgusting. I had experienced a horrific and invasive 6 hour judicial committee 5 years prior and was told by some "kind" elders in another congregation that these men on my jc hadn't handled things properly. And yet, I could see from the elder's manual (not to mention the handwritten notes in the margin) that the elders interrogating me were doing exactly what they'd been empowered to do by the society.
I'd been abused and lied to. And there was no longer any hiding from it. It was clear to me that it was time to leave. After that, the 607 stuff, the flip-flops and all the other lies just added to my conviction that this was not the "truth".
tall penguin

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