Yeah denial works - it worked for my best friend's husband who we just could not prove was having an affair. He told her he was and later denied it and there was no way to prove it. The guy later left the state. After some time, a pi was hired to track the chick down and sure enough he was guilty of what he admitted to her about. But again because the woman would surely not come forward, not that we asked, my BF was out of luck. The guy later moved away and reinvented himself to a whole new group of people who believed his schtik.
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by exJW_2004 13 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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Gregor
I don't know if she is ready for it but instead of the "humiliation" of being DF'd she could take control of the situation and Disassociate herself. Her DA letter could also provide a platform to denounce their phoney baloney 'religion'. If she still wants to be (technically) in good standing for some reason then, as pointed out above, she can simply stonewall them.
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jwfacts
They can do whatever they want to. I did not attend my meeting and yet they d/f me. I appealed and attened the second meeting. I said it should be disassociation, they still called it a disfellowshipping. They do not need anything from her if they have two witnesses to the 'crime'. However, if they dont have two witnesses, if they are nasty they can take her refusal to meet with them as evidence of her disassociating and get her anyway.
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drew sagan
"I'm just not emotionally able to meet with you right now or talk about anything." and they have no documented proof or confession from her that she did anything, then they can't DF her, right? Or if they do, won't she have legal recourse against them for defamation of character, slander, etc?
When she became a Witness she handed all of the legal stuff over to them. It's the old “you agreed to this” technique. There are really two positions one can take in a situation like this
- Stand your ground and take the heat
- Mold yourself to the situation to avoid troubble
In these kind of situations there can really be no right and wrong, only what is going to bring about the best results. Standing ground means that they will be removed from the organization, family could be lost, relationships broken, and all the rest of that. Option number 2 of course means that the truth will be covered over to maintain the status quo. More than likely there will be no middle ground on this, help her to decide what she thinks is the best. Good Luck.