Still no Memorial invite - now I have a dilemma

by Bumble Bee 10 Replies latest jw friends

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  Bumble Bee

  I have never yet missed the Memorial. I've been considered "inactive" for years, and so has my husband. About the only thing we attend is the memorial (and that's because of family). We usually get a visit from a local elder inviting us to the memorial and letting us know time/place etc., and usually my mom asks if we are going to hers (another town). Well neither has mentioned anything. My husband hasn't said anything, I don't even think he knows when the date is.

  I don't want to go, but I know he will (even though he hasn't been to a meeting or assembly in years, he still considers himself a JW and goes to the memorial).

  So here's the dilemma - do I just not say anything to him about the date? There is a seminar I really want to attend (I'm pretty sure it's something he'd be interested in too) on Wednesday night, plus I usually work till 7 on Wednesdays (but that is easily enough changed, my schedule is pretty flexible and I can pretty much set my hours).

  I'm just worried how he'll feel if he finds out afterwards that I knew when it was and I didn't tell him - I know he'd want to go and there is no way he can go on his own without causing major family problems.

  Any suggestions?

  BB
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  misspeaches

  how about going to your seminar and if it ever comes up about missing the memorial just saying you didn't realise it was on. Play dumb. Mention no one invited you or something along those lines. To be even more convincing try look a little sad when you talk about how no one bothered to invite you along...
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  Spectre

  I don't have any solutions. I just wanted to point out that this is such a prime example how this religion presents the oddest, outlandish problems for people.

  I would say don't bring it up, go to the other event(have fun, enjoy)and deal with the consequences later.
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  Scully

  Well, my calendar says that the full moon is on Thursday, April 13. I bet yours does too.

  It's not your fault that the WTS can't read the freaking calendar. I know you'll both be terribly disappointed that you missed it.
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  Virgochik

  Well, darn it! You thought it was getting to be about that time of year, but nobody called you this time, and now, you've missed out! Oh well... had you only known it was on the 12th!
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  drew sagan

  I say you go, and bring a sign that says: Jesus died for everybody people, not just 144,000 of us! On a more seroius note, you might actually be able to use the attedance of the memorial to spark conversation with your husband to help him see it for what it is. I wish you the best.
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  AudeSapere

  My first inclination was like misspeachey...

  Uh oh!! How did we forget? And howcome noone bothered to invite us?? <pout>

  I say - sign up for the seminar that you want to attend. If you husband is that committed to going, let him find the date and remind YOU.

  -Aude.
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  JH

  Some years I went and others I didn't go. The day after, there is no difference.
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  serendipity

  I think you should make your plans, but let your husband know the date and let him decide what he wants to do.
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  blondie

  If he wants to go, it is responsibility to find out when it is. Why doesn't he call someone. You don't have to go unless it will create worldwar3 at home.

  Do you only have one car? Would it be hard to get to the seminar if you do?

  Blondie (not ever going again, 4th year, just a beginner)