A number of people here have either gone through or are going through a judicial committee for apostasy.
Some have reported simply fading from the meetings and being ignored, despite them not being disfellowshipped or disassociated.
Others have said that a witness ignores them, even when his own kids are df'd.
I can only imagine the pain you go through, but in order to understand this strange phenomenon better, it is necessary to know the difference between disloyalty and disfellowshipping, and why the dubs view it differently.
Basically, people get disfellowshipped for messing up, and I'm not talking about apostacy. Dubs in general know that df'd is God's way of reproving them, and that they have a good chance of coming back.
On the other hand, disloyalty is viewed in stark contrast to disfellowshipping. Even if you aren't disfellowshipped, if the dubs have knowledge that you are questioning the "faithful and discreet slave", they see you as a traitor, a potential apostate.
An online dictionary defines a traitor as the following...
1. One who violates his allegiance and betrays his country;
one guilty of treason; one who, in breach of trust,
delivers his country to an enemy, or yields up any fort or
place intrusted to his defense, or surrenders an army or
body of troops to the enemy, unless when vanquished; also,
one who takes arms and levies war against his country; or
one who aids an enemy in conquering his country. See
Treason.
[1913 Webster]
O passing traitor, perjured and unjust! --Shak.
[1913 Webster]
2. Hence, one who betrays any confidence or trust; a
betrayer. "This false traitor death." --Chaucer.
Hence, if you are questioning the Society, and you're friends learn of it, they will see your attack on them as an attack on their spiritual family. Traitors are viewed as low life scum.
You may not feel you are a traitor, but to many dubs you are if you question the Society, for to question the Society invites an attack on the dubs beliefs.