Your "New" Traditions?

whyamihere

Growing up as a JW, we were never allowed to have Holidays or Birthday's etc..... Never able to show my brothers affection on their special day killed me.

Now every year, I sing "Happy Birthday" to my brothers Nick and Ben. The other 2 are still "in". I call them on their Birthday, if they pick up the phone I yell and tell them I am going to leave a voice mail message. I sing out loud a Birthday song and tell them how much I love them. Then I will go sneak in their car later that day, mess up the radio settings, and leave a present.

They love it! Yesterday, was Ben's birthday he turned 24. I am taking him out this weekend.

Anyone else have these special moments being out of the cult?

Brooke

Dune

When i do leave i have a couple of traditions i plan on starting.

1) Send birthday gifts to my brother, ON his birthday. I never liked those underhanded gifts given to me two weeks after my birthday as if i didnt know what the gifts were for.

2) Going to buy one lottery ticket every friday night, just for the principle.

and

3) Try an Apostafest.

RichieRich

Yeah dune, I like the lotto ticket thing.

Just buy a dollar ticket, and it see if you win. It will set a precedent for your day or your week.

daystar

My son is not being raised JW. I get to live vicariously through him... Easter, Christmas, Halloween, B-Days... all of it

It's still difficult though. It doesn't come naturally at all.

lisavegas420

My son is not being raised JW. I get to live vicariously through him... Easter, Christmas, Halloween, B-Days... all of it

yep...me too....all of them...and all the other holiday's Hallmark sells a card for.

lisa

LaCatolica

I applaud you guys for making your "New" traditions...keep them alive and live it up!!!

I'm so glad I didn't have to endure not being able to celebrate my birthday, holidays, etc. I still don't know how you guys did it. All these "traditions" are so much FUN...and they are part of what make life fun and interesting. My inactive JW husband has been celebrating his B-day for about 3 years now...Last year, I gave him a gift and a card and made a big deal about it...his friends gave him gifts too...(but, the whole time he was worried about his mom finding out)...it's just soooooo sad.

carla

My life works in reverse as you guys. Now that I have a jw in the house, I make an even bigger deal out of holidays than before! Though a big cloud still hangs over the house with his non participation and his kids silent hurt shouting out.

jaredg

i've been making up some new traditions in the bedroom

carla

like I said, life works in reverse here. damn.

White Waves

I send my "Elder" father and mother a Christmas card each year and tell them I love them, even though they have shunned me (I'm not DFd or reproved) and had my siblings and their spouses do the same. It was my non-jw Grandma's idea and I love it. We get a kick out of it. Maybe it is payback for screwing up the family so bad, I don't know. But after a life time of no celebrations, other than baby showers and wedding showers, not seeing non-JW relatives months out of the year (and being told they are dangerous, etc.), for me it is a sign to them that I am not coming back to the cult.

Your "New" Traditions?

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