by KW13 17 Replies latest jw friends
The blood guilty bastards have f**ked over 4 generations of my JW Haszard clan.Interestingly if you google the Haszard name you will find it's blue blood old English clan with distinguished accomplishments.
My JW family are all losers except now my Danny Haszard anti-cult pages top for Haszard
I regret the opportunities lost by my family becoming JWs. Both sides of my 'worldly family' w ere moderately connected and successful in business yet my parents threw all that away in exchange for the dubious promise of fresh fruit to time indefinite. Severing the families natural survival network was s uicidal - lunacy of the first order.
All my life I had a family that was hot and cold. We would go to the meetings for about six months and then not go for six months. Each time I had KH friends that would either be my best friend (whem I'm going) or have nothing to do with me (when I'm not going). I always, though, had a friend who didn't seem to care about that and would still be my friend no matter what.
When we became older though, we went in seperate directions. He worked his way to becomming a Ministerial Servent (elder now) and I moved farther away from the church. We still were friends but things weren't the same. It all came to a head when I was getting married to a "worldly" girl and he turned me down when I asked him to be my best man. You can imagine my hurt and supprise! And truthfully, I haven't talked to him since.
I would like to interject the thought that though these people have done horrible things to each other and us, they did them with good intentions. Most of them thought that they were protectiong themselves or someone that they love against a person with hostile points of view (in thier view). The society even says that shunning them will "shame them into repentance" when supporting the person would be the best answer. This has helped me to get over some of the anger I feel toward a lot of people and to come to terms with the decisions that some of them have made.
Thinking back when I was 17, and a jw, I was living with my dad. I was told that I really shouldnt go spend time that summer with my mom and sister cause they were df'd. Thank goodness, I didnt listen. Although I was df'd when I came back for fornication, and for not listening to my dad! But looking back, im glad I didnt shun them!
I just don't remember God making bad associating apply to family. Who the hell are the society? they take things to far to give them control, and then you get a load of fathers and/or husbands wanting to be in control of a family.
everyone wants some kind of status and responsibility and to be involved in something.
Yes, I think it affected my family and myself to a certain extent. On my mothers side there are very few JW. My grandmother "got the truth" when my aunts and uncles were older, so out of the five of them my mom is the only JW (my aunt was for a time but was DF'd for smoking). We've had DF'd family members, my dad was for a few years as well as my younger brother. I have to say my mother was not into the shunning aspect. She was not about to lose her only sister (good for her), but as a child growing up and hearing from the platform not to associate with such people, I wrestled with my conscience alot! I loved my aunt, loved going to her house and spending time with her and my cousins, but heard all the time how I wasn't supposed to be associating with them.
My father had a so called "secret sin". Smoking. He was DF'd for it when the change came about in the early '70's, but said he quit and was reinstated. I don't think he ever really quit. I knew from a young age that he smoked, and so did my brother. This bothered us very much. My mother I'm sure knew but denied it. I think knowing that my father was smoking hindered my relationship with him. I loved him dearly, and we did alot of things together as a family, but I think our relationship could have been so much more.
It was hard hearing the elders tell us if we knew someone was committing wrong that it needed to be brought out in the open and dealt with. When my brother and I were about to be baptized we tried to do this. My brother and father almost got into a fistfight. (My dad was a big strong man and knew how to fight.) It was very ugly. If my mother hadn't come between them I don't know what would have happened. He denied it and so did my mother. We had proof, both my brother and I had seen him smoking, knew where he hid the smokes and alot of other people knew he did it (people he worked with).
I recently talked with my mother about how this affected us. She said if it bothered us so much we should have gone to the elders and reported it!!!!!!!! I was shocked she'd say somthing like this. What a position to put your children in. If we had done this, my dad would have been DF'd again. How could we live with ourselves knowing we had our father DF'd again?? This so called religion is the worst thing that can happen to families.
BB
KW - do you see your aunt now?
I did the same day, i wasn't gonna stand for that
