Ian!!! so good to see you, mate! *hugs*
to answer the question, Minimus, it'd be easier to ask, what didn't bother me??? Because even if something didn't make me feel guilty, (and everything did) someone else's conscience (usually my older, nosybody sister's *rolling eyes* and her super-pious elder husband's would be bothered and they'd send the elders 'round to counsel me!)
god am I glad that's over now LOL
essie