Were YOU Wrong, or, were you WRONGED?

prophecor

I left because of sins of the flesh. I held onto years worth of guilt and felt I could no longer serve Jehovah with a clean conscience, as I was practicing that which was unbecoming of a Christian. My sins were enough to assist in my walking away from the truth as I could not serve as a hypocrite and look my fellow brothers and sisters in the eye, without feeling guilty of treason.

I was wrong.

I would not come to realise until years later that there was something wrong within the organisation. The scales on my eyes had slowly come to be removed because of finding JWD and Freeminds.org.

There was something rotten in the Watchtower.

Though it never negated what my part was in leaving the organisation, I was able to eventually come to be more at peace with my life, my history as a witness, as well as no longer feeling under the gun of the WTB&TS. Many of you here seem to have always had the idea that something wasn't right within the walls of the Hall. It was never my understanding that anything was wrong within the Organisation, at least not until hanging out with all of you.

Just Querious. When you left, were YOU wrong, or, were you Wronged?

FlyingHighNow

I was wronged. My family and me were neglected at a time we needed people the most.

heretic

same boat prophecor, but a bit of both i was wronged by elders big time (the tape is comin) but 1/2 year later fornicated more than once which didnt show 'signs of repentance' and was dfed which threw it all on me, 18mths later i walked after it was apparent i couldnt (wouldnt be allowed) back in. after 1 1/2 years thinkin for myself found the 'web poison' and my mind hasnt been the same mwahahahah. Lots of people in the sydney exjw meetup group were dissed for apostacy, I said to one i wish i was but they said its the same result no matter, so I guess its not a glamorous exit no matter which way you get f****d.. in the end youve still been f****d

luna2

At the time I left I was more wrong than wronged. I hadn't done any of the big disfellowshipping activities, so it wasn't that sort of guilt, I just didn't want to be there any more. I didn't want to go out in service and tell people they were wrong and I was right and they'd better get with the program or they'd all die. I didn't want to sit through all the boring meetings where everything had become a repetitious drone that I could no longer force myself to pay attention to. I didn't even want to socialize with other JWs any more...and there were a few kind people who'd invite a single sis such as myself to their little do's from time to time.

I'd had a breakdown of sorts one cold February that changed everything. After three days where I barely got out of bed and couldn't eat, I had to decide if I was going to continue whipping myself to live a life that I didn't want to live, brought me no joy, and got me feeling so depressed that I wanted to lay down and die or if I was going to embrace life, find joy and climb out of the pit of despair I was slowly wasting away in. I chose life. I felt guilty about it but I couldn't do anything else and still survive.

Its amazing to me that my brainwashing was so strong that it didn't even occur to me to do any research on a religion that I subconsciously knew was unhealthy and wrong. All thanks to a dear friend who opened my eyes. Her gentle hints and the information she forwarded to me slowly erroded all of the resistance to truth...real truth...that the dubs had built up in me over 20+ years. Finding sites like this and freeminds was first devastating and then liberating. I could finally let go of the guilt and put the blame exactly where it belonged...on the WTS.

greendawn

I was wronged in the sense that the JW society proved to be an impenetrable society that was impossible to have a social life in, and yet they were promising that if you leave the world you will find in the JWs many more friends and relatives, what a deception.

Obviously a social life is what makes us tick. If the group refuses to give you such basic support then it's time to piss on their neck and walk away.

As for fornicating, which I didn't do as a dub, it could be just a person's way to find some warmth in a very cold and incompassionate environment, and can hardly be faulted.

Finally-Free

I was WRONG when I joined that worthless cult in the first place. I was WRONGED many times after that, until I finally decided I wouldn't put up with their shit any more.

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AuldSoul

I was WRONG to believe the organization, of which I was a part, taught only what the Bible teaches and followed its own published policies. I was WRONGED many times while demonstrating—beyond question—that it does not.

When I tired of being wronged, I decided to rob them the pleasure of holding a "secret court", which court stands in direct contradiction to the instructions in the Bible.

Respectfully,
AuldSoul

Lady Lee

Both

I was WRONG for the choice I made to commit adultery to get away from my elder-husband. Commiting that one act got me my freedom but I spent many years dealing with the damage that one act did to my self-esteem

I was WRONGED when I went to the elders to get help because my elder husband was emotionally and sexually abusing me and physically and emotionally abusing the girls. The elders decided my one act of adultery was more important than my husband's 15 years of abuse. They asked me one question to determine my "guilt"

Would you make the same choice?

They didn't ask "if the situation was different" because then I could have honestly said "if the situation was different I would make a different choice" But the question they asked was too open. Given the exact same situation along with my deep depression and suicide plans I thought I made the best decision that I could at that time.

So I got the boot and he got to hide his abuse

TresHappy

I was wrong for joining; wronged about many things; but right when I left!

Honesty

I was wrong for joining their little cult of horrors.

Were YOU Wrong, or, were you WRONGED?

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