My husband has a sister (Lori) pioneer and her hubby (Mike) elder who have never had any respect for my husband or myself. Even when we were going to meetings they overstepped their parameters constantly. Demanding personal information and not honoring a simple request to not 'drop in' whenever they get a whim.
The last part has gotten worse since we moved to the family homestead which is owned by both kids and both step kids... my fil is still living and is now 91. It has been agreed for many years that when dad dies we will step up and buy the home immediately even if it means selling our apartment house. We can not buy while he is alive as he does not like the step daughter and refuses to see her get a penny. Thus the agreement by all parties to wait til he is gone and then it gets split equally.
Perhaps the fact that they own a part explains their sudden attitude of absolute empowerment. We have even had an arguement with them over this a couple of years ago of course it changed nothing. Mike feels he is an elder and thus does not have to honor such small requests but this past week end is the worst ever.
Yesterday my husband and I put on a b b q for some of the clients at his agency who had nothing to look forward to for the whole week end. While we were all sitting and eating Mike and Lori come storming in and announce that they heard from dad that we were not going to be home at all that afternoon! Hhhhmmm, so what is the purpose of their coming here then? Looking for apostate literature?? Did the elders send them? Going through personal property???? The home locks but the garage/barn does not and they know the trick of getting in the house from when grandma and grandpa were living here.
I have been just seething !
It is hard to sit here and keep a civil tonue in my head.
Cab