Why are EX-JW's and JW's in doubt(faders) so ''afraid" of the elders?

by booker-t 34 Replies latest jw experiences

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  done4good

  Peronally, I'm not afriad of them, however I don't much like confrontation. Another problem, for myself, is brutal honesty. In most instances, I would likely "tell them like it is", and end up with a JC if questioned too much, perhaps even offering information to them, that they didn't even question. While most jws don't talk to me anymore anyway, I would prefer to at least keep my lines of communication officially open with a few of them for as long as possible. I realize this may not be the case forerver.

  Fortunately, for me, I live at least an hour away from any congregation I was formally associated with, so such encounters are rare, at best.

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  xjwms

  I think it just takes years to DE-Program

  After a while ... look forward to the shunning of them.

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  MinisterAmos

  Who brought this back from the dead anyway?

  Oh a JW

  Anyway to answer the question, THEY ARE FARKING SCHOOL JANITORS!
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  AuldSoul

  I don't know, booker-t. I never experienced that, but I have seen it. Maybe I didn't experience it because my dad, my grandfathers, four of my five uncles, and two brothers-in-law are all elders. Maybe working on so many Quick-Builds wore the edges off my awe of them. Maybe I didn't experience it because I know they are just men and are not, as the organization claims, "glorious ones."

  Whatever the reason, I have never (as far back as I can remember) been afraid of elders.

  I have experienced the same kind of cautious regard for elder's wives that I feel while watching a tornado, but only because they can be so erratic and destructive, through the illegitimate authority wielded by their husbands.

  Faders are afraid because if they haven't convinced themselves yet then they may get shoved outside before they are fully prepared to step outside. That makes a kind of "good sense" to me.

  In my case, however, the elders are very much afraid of me.

  Respectfully,
  AuldSoul
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  love2Bworldly

  Nik--you need to do more research and then you will understand the hostility of some exJWs. These people are working through the emotional damage that the cult of the Watchtower Society has done to them and/or their families. The JW religion is extremely emotionally destructive, and a no-win situation for those who choose to leave who leave family members behind entrenched in those false religious beliefs that are unChristian at best.

  I have 2 nonJW relatives who call the JW religion "family destroyers".