What EXACTLY Is The Society's View On Sex???????

by minimus 38 Replies latest jw friends

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  undercover

  The WTS view on sex is fairly puritanical and fundamentalist as far as I'm concerned.

  Since God(or whoever wrote the Bible) didn't make a list of things that displease him regarding sexual practices between husband and wife, the WTS has taken it upon themselves to create a pharisee-like set of rules to make sure everyone keeps "clean" before Jehovah. But they demonize sex so much that people who grow up in the "truth" can have issues when it comes to enjoying sex even in a legal marriage union. While abstainance from sex before marriage may be a moral issue for many people, I'm sure they don't limit themselves to the set of rules that JWs are forced to obey.

  If you're single: no riding in the car alone with the opposite sex. No sitting next to each other(interested boy/girl) at the hall/convention unless marriage is the ultimiate goal. No recreational dating. No dating without a chaperone. Even group dates have to be careful to not let two people get alone for any length of time. No "heavy petting" or making out. Holding hands and kissing have been counseled against by some dopey elders. This kind of shit can fuck you up when you're finally interested in getting married. Hell, if you followed all those rules to the tee, you'd be afraid to kiss your bride at the wedding lest you get counseled for giving her the tongue.

  Is it no wonder that young JWs who have not gotten past the bloom of youth are so horny that they marry the first person who holds their hand? They bottle everything up and sooner or later it's got to come out. According to the WTS all you gotta do is read your bible and all's well. But different people have different sex drives. Some people are more sexual and need a sexual outlet. The WT way of dealing with sexuality just creates problems for such ones. If younger ones could mature into the age of being ready to marry instead of follwing the same lameass rules as a 12 year old, maybe they could get past that getting married at 18 or 19. Almost every JW marriage that I can think of that started at 18 or 19 has ended in divorce. Because they weren't really in love. They were horny and the only way to get off was to get married.
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  Cordelia

  im going to the convention just to find out the latest meaning of porneia! I got a 'scriptual' divorce for having a certain picture on my phone and a 20 second hand job!!!
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  sinamongurl

  jus t look at the number of children that the GB have fathered.

  is that true.....and illegitimate ones? if anyone can answer please email me....ty
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  greendawn

  It is cheap, dirty and degrading as if a concession that God very grudgingly made to mankind. Franz and Knorr were very inhibited victorian creatures and their neurotic concept of sex was stamped on the WTS. To the contrary sex is very dignifying, natural and beneficial a gift that God gave to mankind.
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  JH

  The words Watchtower and Sex don't mix too well.
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  jojochan

  but what i DO know is that the jw's and the "society" are more obsessed with sex than the average worldly person i've ever met.

  Oh Yeah....i agree.

  But their view of sex is...very vanilla...very missionary. very boring...and oh yeah...the wife HAS to render; THE DUE!

  Very male dominating.

  jojochan.
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  jojochan

  Is it no wonder that young JWs who have not gotten past the bloom of youth are so horny that they marry the first person who holds their hand? They bottle everything up and sooner or later it's got to come out. According to the WTS all you gotta do is read your bible and all's well. But different people have different sex drives. Some people are more sexual and need a sexual outlet. The WT way of dealing with sexuality just creates problems for such ones

  Because they teach one to supress the urge even when one IS married. Just read the magazines and their bible and it'll be alright.

  One word, One position, they're all a bunch of neuters.

  jojochan
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  delilah

  If it's enjoyable, and loving, with a little fun thrown in for good measure, I think the society wants to put a lid on it. The R&F can't be having any sexual pleasure, you know. Especially when the old men in Bethel are being busy-bodies busy following bible principles. (and not "gettin' any)
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  Broken Hearted

  Is it no wonder that young JWs who have not gotten past the bloom of youth are so horny that they marry the first person who holds their hand? They bottle everything up and sooner or later it's got to come out. According to the WTS all you gotta do is read your bible and all's well. But different people have different sex drives. Some people are more sexual and need a sexual outlet. The WT way of dealing with sexuality just creates problems for such ones

  With all the rules it is no wonder that so many may fall to being with children. (NOT RIGHT) but think about it, in their minds they are children themselves for the most part. They are told what to think then they start having adult feelings, the girls/ boys that are involved in some cases are wanting to be with those adults also I honesty don't think ALL the cases in the JW are the sickening pedofile cases, just bad judgment and wonder if there is a way the WTS could be also held accountable for creating the messed up minds the congregration gets. I have not read much about JW women abusing boys does anyone know if this has happened like the teachers we are hearing about today more and more?

  Of course most churches practice the no sex before marriage but this organization seems to tell them after marriage it is not a pleasure but a duty. I growing up wondererd what all the taboo was about. AT least I waited until I was 19 until finding out, however, I decided from that point in my life when I had children I would raise with the healty mind of sex being a wonderful thing between two people and that Of course I would prefer for them to wait until marriage and follow the bible but I would not sit in judgment if they had sex before marriage, Of course i would be a hypocrit if I did becasue I got pregnant with 3 children without being married, I lost the first one. But see i some how feel the reason I did that was too because of the taboos that were set, and did not care if I got pregnant. I did reap what I sowed and was in a marriage I hated for 17 years, and I use those examples to my children. I am very open in my home with my children on this issue, However, I also don't believe in making it easy for teenagers to have access to listening to hormones and not thier heads.
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  Scully

  If they thought they could get away with it, I think the WTS would prefer it if JWs never had sex at all. They already view pre-marital and extra-marital sex as "sinful" and as a sign of Spiritual Weakness™... so it wouldn't be much of a stretch to interfere even more in marital relationships so as to exclude sex just for the sake of sex and sex to add to the intimacy in the relationship. They already interfere (at least on a cognitive level) in printing articles that elicit disgust for practices like oral sex - by making statements to the effect that it is a "homosexual practice".

  They already have embraced the idea that one's relationship with Jehovah The Organization™ takes priority over one's relationship with a marriage mate, and interfere in marital relationships based on the person's standing within The Organization™. If one believes that their mate has been "seduced by the Devil" and has become Apostate™, how easy is it going to be for them to snuggle up to them in bed at night, rather than recoil in disgust at the thought of being touched by or making love with someone who poses a threat to one's Spirituality™?

  When you can control what people do in the bedroom, you can control just about anything else in their lives.

  The only thing that JWs have going for them is that the WTS's statistics are on the decline, and that JWs procreating is proving to be one of the few things they have in their favour to give the appearance of a less drastic decline.