Welcome from Texas!
Think of this place as a bus station. It is a hub with many travelers. We are all passing through on a life journey from X to Z. As we gather, we share our stories. We go our separate ways. Each day is both the same and different. That is, the hurt is the same, but the people are different.
You will probably go through the same phases we all have done and still do.
At first there is Denial, then astonishment and fear. Soon, it is fact-gathering and a million questions.
It's good to have an almost NEUTRAL ZONE where you are allowed to vent, question, complain, and suffer in public.
The folks here are a rag-tag motley crew of great people. Take everything with a grain of salt except our affection for you and empathy for the path you are treading.
One thing will serve you well--we are among the few people on earth who KNOW what you are going through without your having to explain.
Cheers!