Ah the joys of having a hubby that is in complete subjection to his witness sister!!!!
I love living my life according to the book of Lori! She and Frank are supposed to find a new care home for their father so today they made arrangements to go together and look for one. Well, she could not do anything until at least 12:30 as she has service this am. So first thing this am Frank calls around and finds a place with an opening, mind you this time scheduling totally ruins my days plans and that of our clients but that is not important.
We argued. OUr client finally got so upset that he started to have a seizure (that shut us both up fast) and finally it is time for him to leave to meet Lori and pick up his dad to go to the new place to fill out form.
She just calls and says she is changing plans... she does not want to go. Call came in from the K.H. so she is probably doing more service.
If this were the only problem it would not be any problem at all. I know that this is petty and there is a 91 year old man involved-- who is getting kicked out of his current care home for being bossy to everyone and being unreasonable !!!---- but their controlling behavior is in everything. When grandpa went to this home 9 years ago Lori and her hubby Mike had themselves put as the only people to call in case of emergency. That would be aggravating but ok if they told us when they heard about problems but they did NOT!
I finallly called the place up and told them that we had to be called for everything as well. They now do. We have to go through this again at a new place.
I could just throttle her!!! If there is a funeral in the family she insists that Frank rides WITH her (she drives) and oh yeah if I want to come I can sit in the back like a blooming idiot!
Whydo people have to be controlling and mean. She and her husband have so very much. They come here w/o notifying us , sit in the living room and tell me about their little vacations... this is contentious because she knows that Frank stated clearly when we first got married that I was not going to be taken on any vacation...period...ever. I wasn't as pretty as his other girfriends and not as slender and he did not think that I was worthy of being taken away from home for a few days. This has been an ongoing hurt for the full time of our marriage.
She knows this and every year stops in a week or so after they go to Maine or after their many road trips and tells me what fun they had and the places that they went for shopping etc.
One year I mentioned that I wanted to go to NH someday and do the discount malls that they have in the southern part of the state. I have never gotten there... well you guessed it... she went and told me all about the many great deals that she found. Grinned like a cheshire cat the whole time she talked about it.
She has done so, so much more (and continues to do) but I will shut up now. Nobody needs to hear me rant any longer but this has been broiling my insides for years. I know that hating is very unhealthy for us but that is one woman that just makes nuts.
Thank you for letting me fume yet once again. As stated earlier my client is here now and will be for a few more days so I can not just lay down and have a good cry or storm or do anything to give myself the ability to cope better. So glad that you are all here. I think that I might implode if I did not have you.
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