Left behind...or forgotten? (page 3)

Sailor Ripley

Sadly, to them you are already dead. I was told so by my Dad years ago. He even went on to say, "I don't have a son." C'est la vie.

As so many others have said, they have to think of you this way. Your actions, or the choices you've made have forced them to forget you. I believe that they have had to forget you to dull the pain that comes from "losing" you to the world.

Whatever. You're as good as you think you are. I personally believe that it's none of my business what people think of me. I'm the only driver of my bus; if it wrecks I'm the one that wrecked it..

Keep on Truckin'!

delilah

Lisa......................I'll NEVER forget you...I wuv's you......but I understand what you're saying....They certainly aren't like Jesus, who left the flock to go in search of the one. They THINK, they're like Jesus, but their actions prove far different.

............'sides, you don't want them to come for a visit....you won't like what they have to say. It's the same ol' bulls&*t as before.

nclisa

I am new to this forum,, but boy do i relate to this...born in the truth ...married in the truth..he lied, chased women, obsessed about porn, we had a child together, which i raised myself, got knocked around a few times..( when we went to the elders, it was assumed i must be doing something wrong)..after he finally cheated on me...but begged me to stay, i did and followed his work from GA to NC where i knew no one and had no family..while there i continued to go to meeting, he did not, he finally left our family...i became completely devasted..here i was did everything i was suppose to ...no drugs ever, waited til i got married for sex, was a devoted wife and i was now alone,,i tried to talk to the brothers...they acted like they could care less..i stopped going to meetings...no one called, i havent heard from anyone since...but it was the best thing that ever happened to me...i soon met a wonderful man...(ex marine) we are now married and have 2 very small children....he treats me so wonderful...i stayed in my 1st marriage because i didnt know any better, i just thought that was the way it had to be, now i know better and i am so happy...even though my christian brothers left me...luckily my family who are still in...support and respect my decision.

lisavegas420

welcome nclisa.

It does feel better knowing I'm not the only one,........ but how did you manage this?

luckily my family who are still in...support and respect my decision.

Was it because they saw how badly you were treated by your jw husband? or because of the fantastic treatment from your new hubby?

I'm glad you and your children excaped and your children will never have to experience it. Does your husband give you this look ----> When you tell his things about your past? Mine sure does..lol

lisa

serendipity

Welcome nclisa! I'm glad you found happiness.

nclisa

I guess it was my new husband..I had never really been around 'worldly' people other than work, but really didnt associate with them (bad assc spoil useful habits)...then when my husband left,, after a few weeks i woke up one day and realized what a relief it was not dealing with him and how much happier i was on my own...then I met my husband, he showed me nothing but respect and was very patient with me...I began to be around his family and friends and realized this people were better friends and love ones than anyone i knew in the truth...of course my husband does think some of the things that go one are odd...esp being a marine (he is very patriotic) but he also is not judgmental since my family is still in the organization and respects anyone decisions and beliefs.

beautifulisfree

Not that I want them to start on me...I just wonder why I've been left behind or forgotten about.

I hear you!! I was just talking about this with my family. The 'elders' have disfelllowshipped and demonized my mom, dad and brother. (Actually come at them with a vengence) And although I proudly consider myself an apostate...they have done nothing to me..not a letter, phonecall, invitation, etc. I want to send in a letter of DA...but I don't think they would even know who it was from...since I married at about the same time I was leaving. What A Holes....But, in a way I am glad to...but it kinda makes me mad that I obvioulsy meant nothing to these people who were supposed to be my friends.