Not the smurfs!!!!!

tattoogrl333

I had previously asked a question about demons and after visiting the sites and reading the posts suggested by Larc, I am disturbed. JW really believe all that stuff about vacumes, teapots, and other household iteams. That is sad. The study lady I have always goes to second hand stores though for clothes, but i will have to ask her about the smurfs and other things. I thank you for showing me those sites I never noticed the links at the bottom of the page before, I can see it will be a late night for me now there is so much information.
i guess i still ask questions and hang out here because i don't know what to do. i have never had a family and the lady i study with has taken me in. it is the weirdest sense of guilt, I don't want to disappoint her. And anytime I begin to distance myself she sucks me back in. i can't even explain how she does it. it is obvious they want me to change my appearance there are suggestions made about dying my hair but no one really comes straight out and says it. it's more like "hey you would look good as a blonde, Whats your natural color, i think the dye is damaging your hair" so they don't just say change or we will never fully accept you. or with the tats they don't tell me not to show them, but just make it so i feel I should. Then outside the KH the study lady is sooo nice making me dinner inviting me over, helping me when my car is broken down, telling me I'm like one of her daughters now. it Sucks!!!! i feel torn straight in two. it's weird how you can sense something is wrong see facts and everything but somehow still convince yourself it could be true. I guess i'm just weak.

Teirce

If you feel you're weak, and you feel you'd be wrong to stay, would there be some chance of just going ahead and joining for a time? That way (and I'm noone, here, so shut my mouth) you might have the opportunity to become truly sickened in the stomach, and this would help you resolve to be strong and get out with total conviction and moral authority. But, I totally understood on the feeling weak. They excell at that.

think41self

Hi Tattoo

First, I don't think you're weak...you are trying to make up your mind. That involves looking at all sides, weighing the evidence, making the best decision you can with the information available to you at the time.

Many, many Witnesses are good, kind hearted people. This woman may very well look upon you as a daughter. My question is, do you have to accept her beliefs to maintain your relationship with her? Why would it have to be that way? Maybe a question you could ask her.

And Teirce, welcome to the board! You are not a "no one here". There is no such thing. Your opinions and feelings are just as valid as anyone else's. Keep sharing your thoughts.

Tattoo, keep looking...the answers will come.

think41self

"Not believing is not the same as not knowing."

MrMoe

I understand totally tat - I studied for a while with somebody just so I would not hurt thier feelings. JW's have a lot of love to offer those who are "interested." But - it is NOT the truth. Please visit www.freeminds.org. This Web site helped me more than anything in my research. Randy runs the site and was an overseer in Bethel. If anyone has knowledge on what is appropriate and accurate to post he is the one.

If you are searching for God - have you thought about visiting differnet churches or going to your local library and research thier doctrines. I have not found the "right religion." I think the correct one is plain old Christian. Want to find a church to go to, but so many just want my money - and I am a little nervous, too. I offered before - but please feel free to e-mail me with any questions or to chat. Maybe I can help or just be a listening ear.

Moe

Naeblis

Smurfs killed my father. True story.

larc

Tattoo Girl,

I am sorry I was a little short with you earlier. I guess, it was because I was frustrated that after all we had written, you were still involved with the JWs. After your post above I understand why. You are in a tough spot. You are getting the emotional support and love you need and that has to be very gratifying for you. At the same time, on an intellectual level the stuff they are telling you does not compute. The only thing I can suggest if for you, is to take your time, enjoy her friendship, but keep researching and learning. After all, this is a big decision.

NameWithheld2

Yea, why can't you stay friends/family with this lady and cease the 'study' part? Why can't you tell her that you want to maintain your freindship but have no desire to join her religion? Would she cease association with you? If she does, that in itself is all the proof you need of her true intentions. If she doesn't, then you have gained a true friend (and will shock many of us on this board!)

Billygoat

Hey Tatgirl!

I have a question for you:

If someone else were studying with you, would you still be studying?

(((hugs)))

Andi

LittleToe

Hi NameWithheld2

I wouldn't say that that wsa neccesarily a fair criteria.
I've never turned down someones friendship, just because they wouldn't study with me, and frankly made some darned good friends that way.

Just my 2p to show that it aint a definitive litmus test (no more, no less).

Hi Tattoogirl - please take your time and don't let the b*ggers get ya down, you are an individual, after all. Nobody (but NOBODY) should be allowed to take that away from you.
For all the flame that goes around here, there's a lot of compassion - you could do far worse than get a wide spectrum of opinion and draw your own conclusions.

lydia

Tatoo girl,

I want to appologise for my earlier comments to you..I too was frustrated about your involvement with the KH.. But I do understand the need for the freindship and feelings of acceptance. Please know that we are all here to help you to get the full view of what is being told to you at this time.. and we only want you to possibly avoid the problems that we have had to overcome due to our involvement with them.

I doupt that your study lady will agree to being only friends.. this is a way of them getting control.. they make you feel like you will be unable to live without them in your life. This is a misguided notion but one that has worked so well for them they keep trying. I apreciate your confusion with this.

Please keep posting your questions and all ehre will be more than happy to answer them and help you if we can..

((((TATOO))))

Not the smurfs!!!!!

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