Trev and I both gave up smoking around a month ago. We didn't tell many people, hoping that would stop those of our friends who smoke from offerring us a cigarrette. Trev has been meaning to quit for a while, and I joined him when he made the attempt to support him. I only started smoking regularly again quite recently anyway, although I was a heavy smoker pre jw, so I thought it would be easier for me than him, he's been smoking since he left the org in 1999.
How wrong I was! He's been fine, and though he admits to missing smoking, its not been as bad as he thought, while I've been just about tearing my hair out for 3 weeks. I finally gave in to the cravings a few days ago and started again, and admitted it to Trev when he came home about 2 hours ago. I thought he'd be angry or at least disappointed with me, but he's been really sweet and understanding, which has made me feel even worse really, though I feel a lot calmer now I'm smoking again. I really wish I'd listened to Trev and not started again, but I guess it's a little too late for that now .I sort of enjoy it, I always did, and I smoked occasionally in secret throughout most of my time as a jw. I know it's an awfully bad habit, and expensive, but I need it right now, in fact I need a cigarrette just typing this.
I just hope my smoking again now doesn't tempt him back into it, I would feel really guilty if that happened as he's been doing so well.
Linda