by Dansk 26 Replies latest social relationships
Male menopause, didn't think about that one! I know some men have to give themselves injections of testosterone. Sometimes the body just doesn't produce enough, that would certainly make his libido take a nose dive.
Make sure he gets a thorough check up.
BB
He did talk to the doc about it. He's not on any meds that have that side affect. I wasn't there w/him when he talked to the doc and a lot of men just don't open up about health issues.
Thank you so much for your kindness and advice. Ian, you have a wonderful wife. All of you are so sincere. I really appreciate that.
Hugs to all of you,
Juni
I do not usually talk about my sex life. But here goes.
I have always had a strong sex drive and my wife and I had a good sex life. I am sure most of you already know that my wife passed away July the 11th 2006.
At some time before that, my prostate gland decided to shut down the urine duct and I had to have a tube in and through to the bladder.
Then I am given a pill that is supposed to keep the duct open after removal of the tube. It does and works well.
Except- while none of this interferes with the erection it almost eliminates the feelings of the orgasm and the amount of semen.
When it comes to sex, ya just can't win.
Either ya can't get any or get too much or one wants more than the spouse or less than the spouse or you get divorced or sick or a death interferes.
If it isn't that, some religion messes with your sex life or your parents do by raising you to believe there is some thing just not right about sex.
When ya get older, people think there is something wrong with you if you want sex. Grown children cannot accept the fact that their parents still have sex. Your grand children run from the room if it is mentioned that gramp and granny have sex.
I give up.
Outoftheorg
juni
I have been in your situation and I too wondered if my husband had a problem getting it up because of middle age (prostate) or whether he had just turned into a lazy, tv watching, wife neglecting, ass. So, I did a little experiment one night (I'll spare you the details, let's just say I read in cosmo about a few moves no healthy man can resist! ) Well, I discovered the plumbing was in fine working order, he just didn't have any motivation to turn on the tap. So one night, after getting the cold shoulder to the television again, I told him that another man had asked me out (true) and if he didn't start paying more attention to me than to the f*****g TV, I saw no reason not to accept the offer. So, now I have been getting my just desserts regularly ever since. For my part, I am trying to learn how to bring up issues a little more sweetly and subtlely. (I get crabby when I ain't getting any!)
I'm not recommending this approach to everyone. Our situation was so bad that I was about ready to walk away from the relationship altogether so it wasn't a manipulative bluff. I was prepared to carry through and leave. We have a lot of other issues too, which is probably at the root of the problem to begin with, but having a pleasurabl physical relationship makes it a lot more motivating to work out the other problems.
Cog
Dear Outoftheorg,
I do not usually talk about my sex life.No, but I bet many here are glad you did! It was extremely brave of you and I've no doubt at all that your post has helped many men realise that they are not alone and that something can be done if/when they have a problem.
I am sure most of you already know that my wife passed away July the 11th 2006.
Yes, and we're all dreadfully sorry! No one can ever fully empathise, unless they've been there, of course, but if I imagine losing my own beloved wife I feel pangs of devastation. I'm so glad you had so many wonderfully happy times together.
At some time before that, my prostate gland decided to shut down the urine duct and I had to have a tube in and through to the bladder.Then I am given a pill that is supposed to keep the duct open after removal of the tube. It does and works well.
Except- while none of this interferes with the erection it almost eliminates the feelings of the orgasm and the amount of semen.
I'd forgotten about the old prostate gland. Sheesh, the problems we have to go through at times! Like you said, we can't win. Either we have a floppy and can't get an erection no matter how much we try OR we're as hard as a stallion but we can't appreciate an organism!
When it comes to sex, ya just can't win.Either ya can't get any or get too much or one wants more than the spouse or less than the spouse or you get divorced or sick or a death interferes.
Yep, you just can't win!
If it isn't that, some religion messes with your sex life or your parents do by raising you to believe there is some thing just not right about sex.
Fortunately, I've never really had that trouble!
When ya get older, people think there is something wrong with you if you want sex. Grown children cannot accept the fact that their parents still have sex. Your grand children run from the room if it is mentioned that gramp and granny have sex.
Well, I don't have any grandchildren - and my wife and I are still at a young enough age for our children to accept that it's normal. When they can't accept it, TOUGH!!
I give up.
Ha Ha Ha! Thanks for an enlightening post!
Cog, glad you sorted out your "problems".
Ian
Thanks for your reply Dansk.
It is good to see you back and your happiness.
I started to do the 1st post about sex with the disturbing aspects of all this.
Then I decided to add some humor and a little sarcasm to it.
I use this tool to stop the anger and lesson the grief and sadness in my life at this point.
Other than that I feel totally confused most of the time. Some folks would tell you that is my normal personality (confused). Don't pay any attention to them.
Outoftheorg
Wow, you people are naughty!
More power too ya!
