Okay, maybe I'm the odd women here, but I refused to even comtemplate being serious with the fug men in my halls because to me, a man's looks are an important aspect. Of course aestetics are not the be all/end all..... but I'd not be intimate with 'spirtuality'..I'd be intimate with the man, so I want him to be hot. What can I say? I'll honestly say that it's a must for me.
I simply don't like one-sidedness. Many of the guys also look for the 'spiritual' sisters...the pioneers, bethelites, etc....but they ALSO want them to be gorgeous....so spiritual AND gorgeous... why wouldn't I ask for the same combination in the man? I know of some sisters who would marry Frankenstien whether spiritual or not just because he showed interest and offered marriage...just so they won't be alone. I think the limited selections stifles the choices. One sister told me " I guess i should stop looking for the young gorgeous brothers and get what I can get"......and she got it alright....went out with and married the next THING that showed interest within a few months..Hell she could have him, because I wouldn't fathom being with him just to be married. I'm fine just as I am...single without the pity hubby. From experience, any time any single brother was around or visited, sisters would jump all over him, no matter the status in the cong and no matter how UGH he was..and they were very UGH. But since it's not like they had a line up to choose from....the sisters leaped. No thanks...I guess my motto was.....If He's not Hot, I want him Not...lol. But I had no interest in marriage, so I had no problem passing up the dorks.
Raylo