by hambeak 17 Replies latest jw friends
I had chemo today and i feel terrible. When I got home I was expected to cook dinner and have the clothes washed since I didn"t work today.
The owner of the business expects me to go to the tax central appraisal district and represent him on the personal property tax for the business. I just went to bed and had nausea today maybe I will be ok tomorrow and get all the things done I need to.
Peace ya"ll
Hambeak
Here's a hug - sorry to hear you are having such a bad time.
Hope you feel better tomorrow. Think pleasant thoughts.
Take care of yourself, you need the energy. Now who would expect you to have to do the laundry and cook
after a day like that? You must find the power to stop that kind of control, for your own health.
AuntieJane
Are you eligible for disability? During my treatment I went on disability and reduced my work hours to what was more manageable for me. (I was eligible for full disability but opted to work some - it was important to me to feel like a contributing part of society. I think it also helped to have a reason to get up and out for something other than doctor appointments. I ended up using my 'full disability' as 'partial disability'. Financially I came out ahead because in California, Disability Payments are not taxed.)
Cancer treatment (chemo - and surgery!) is brutal on a body. Call your EDD/Disability Office and ask them about options that may be available to you.
I can't imagine having to look after someone else during treatment. I was extremely fortunate to have someone (actually two people - boyfriend and my sister) who took care of much for me. I did my own laundry and fixed simple meals for myself. But on my chemo days and the 2 days that followed, I was 'out of commission' (near comatose for 36 hours each session) and they took care of everything for me (although all I needed/wanted was a little water in a bottle with a sippy nipple [gerbel drip] and a nice hearty dinner when I woke up two days later.
My sister started to light into me one afternoon because I didn't have the energy to do something. (I forget what it was.) She started to yell a little and I stopped her dead in her tracks when I responded with: OK. Next time we go see Dr Masterson, YOU hop up in the chemo chair and then we can have this discussion.
She backed off and got the point.
Find time each day for something that you enjoy. Make it a PRIORITY to enjoy each day. I found it helpful to also plan something fun for the days when I knew I would have a little more energy. It gave me something pleasant to talk and think about.
Try to keep your thoughts as positive as possible. I truly believe it makes a world of difference in your treatment.
{{{{hambeak}}}} My best thoughts are with you.
-Denise.
Hambeak
I just wanted to let you know that I am rooting for you all the way. We all are. We're glad that you have kept us abreast on what's happening.
Best of luck to you friend, and God Bless You.
Arthur
(((hambeak)))
I hope you feel better soon. You will be in my thoughts
love
Linda
I hope all goes well with you, whatever happens when someone feels unwell resting until feeling strong enough to restart work is an inviolable right.
Hambeak- I really feel for you. I saw your first post here and did not reply. I had no words to say. I don't think i did anyhow because I was so wrapped up in a hell I was going through. I am so sorry. I just wanted to tell you that I have thought of you a lot and I cannot imagine how hard this is on you. I send all of my best thoughts your way and I might even be able to pray for safe measure (see I don't really believe in God) that you just somehow could come through this ok. I know you said it was not hopeful, but I just had to let you know that one person here really wishes with all her heart that this goes smoothly for you. I am so very sorry my exjw brother. I am so overly sad and had to finally tell you that it breaks my heart to see you have to deal with this all. May your days be as painless as possible.
Decki
Anyone who expects someone who is having chemo to do anything is not thinking straight.
Dont feel guilted into doing anything. Your body is telling you what to do, and you must listen to it. If it tells you to sit on your arse all day and watch TV then, seriously, that is what you must do.
I really hope you start feeling better soon, please give yourself some slack and give your body the best chance of healing.
