Hiding in the Organization

by purplesofa 19 Replies latest jw friends

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    I have to tell a bit of background to get to the point of this post. It will probably be long.
    My brother called last night. He is still very upset about our younger brothers suicide recently. The brother that committed suicide is a half brother and as I have posted before his father(my stepfather also committed suicide)

    He has talked to my Mom and all she says is how much she wants him to get right with religion and the end is soon. He said purps....she is eat up with it. I said I know. She is in a cult.

    I know she starting pioneering so that is probably where the pressure to witness to my brother PLUS she wants to be sure to do the right thing so she will be able to see my deceased brother in paradise. She wants to work even harder to do the right thing.
    A bit of background and insight into my family.

    My mother divorced my father when I was very young. Three children came from that marriage. She was a very abusive mother, but we looked like the perfect American Catholic family. Once she beat my sister requiring stiches to her chin, but we had to tell everyone she fell out of the top bunkbed. She hit me and caused a broken blood vessel to break in my eye causing the white part to turn red.I had to tell everyone at school that I ran into a tree limb.......KLUTZ! I stole some money from her fathers coin collection to buy ice-cream floats at A&W, she was raging mad, so I lied about it. She got on top of me and put a gun to my head to give a confession.I still would not tell and she had to call a relative in to sort it out.

    This could be a long .......book, so I will skip like a million pages of stuff.
    At the present time........none of my moms kids have anything to do with her nor grandkids. My Mom got baptised in 2000. Shortly after baptism, my real brother (who was adopted by his stepfather) was making an aggressive attempt to find his real father.....who is my father as well. Come to find out, He has a different father than me and my sister....sooooo my mother had an affair none of us knew about and I don't think her husband at the time did either. My brother finds out in a fit of rage from my mother.....shouting to him the revelation.

    My mother has a beautiful home, new car.....the nicest clothes........She looks awesome for her age. She pioneers and has the CO stay at her house when he and his wife are in town. She has been to Bethel and so on and so on. NONE.....of her children will have anything to do with her. We could all be homeless and starving and she would not do a thing.

    So, last night my brother says to me.......those people at her church do not know the real her. He said I am sure MOM has told them horrible stories about us to explain why there is no contact with the kids. He said they think she is wonderful and its all crap. I was thinking how she probably is telling that her being in the truth and all her family is worldly(except me) is the reason.

    I could not help but think how my mom is hiding in the organization. She is accepted and looked at as being very spiritual as she pioneers...goes to all the meetings etc etc. I found in my own situation that I would continually go to meetings with problems at home and have this false sense that everything was ok. I got smiles and glad to see you at the Kingdom Hall and afterall that is where I should be. Now, more than ever I have focused my attention at home, with my family. I have sorted through lots of messed up messages I got from the FDS.

    If anything, I am living closer to bible standards than I ever have, taking care of family obligations first. My kids all speak to me........I don't want to convey that. But I was an absent parent in some ways as I put the organization first.
    My mother is a bad person hiding in the organization.

    OK, I am tired of typing.............I am sure someone can relate to something I have posted.
    Thanks for reading and love to most.
    purps

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    sorry for the format..........put it on wordpad first.....

  • sf
    sf
    My mother is a bad person hiding in the organization.

    This organization is designed for people like this. My mother thinks she's clever though. LOL!!! SHE HAS NO IDEA WHAT THE WORD CLEVER TRULY IS.

    She will.

    sKally

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa
    My mother thinks she's clever though

    Yeah, my Mom thinks she is too. I honestly think that some of her Witness friends that were around for the funeral and saw the interaction my MOM had with her kids ..........There eyes had to be opened to her phoney BS.

  • skyking
    skyking

    Sounds like my wifes mom. You and my wife could write a book and no-one would know it was not the same writer.

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    I think the point is.....

    She has no friends except one that I know of outside of the truth. She wore them all out and her family so she was alone.

    That makes somebody more receptive to hear the truth.

    She easily walked away from the problems she created over the years, and now lives in this lie. She did nothing to rectify her past.

    This false sense of OKness based on meeting attendance and pioneering.

    Does that make sense?

  • Sunspot
    Sunspot

    ((((((Purps))))))

    How WELL I know the situation!!!

    I have a smug-super-righteous-pioneer-elderette-daughter who is a snake and a witch wearing the same JW hat. She knows just what to do and say to impress others (always HAS since she was a little kid and she is now in her 40's) and how to always come out "looking" good.

    She has done terribly rotten and mean-spirited things to me and her Father, and has spread some very vicious gossip around to all her JW friends about us. I found this out when one of my kids let it slip.....and when we confronted all our other kids to see if this was really true....they all said yes....she had said these things when they all got together for a vacation a few years ago.

    I guess shunning me wasn't enough for her.....she had to concoct horrible and totally untrue stories about me to give her more importance for some reason. She never figured I would EVER HEAR her tales because she moved out of state! And THIS....from a butter-wouldn't-melt-in-her-mouth truthful and always honest Witness of Jehovah!!! She makes me ill. I hope she is proud of herself because *I* am ashamed of her.

    So these JWs with a halo are just as phony liars and we KNOW that it will catch up to them and bite them square in the ass. SOMEBODY will have "enough of their stuff" and take care of them one way or another! You KNOW it can't last forever....

    I really don't see how people like this can sleep at night......but it seems that those with no conscience have no trouble sleeping at all.

    Hang in there Purps...and know you are loved.....

    hugs,

    Annie

  • freedomloverr
    freedomloverr

    Purps-


    this is so my mom and stepfather!! they have 3 kids that won't have anything to do with them anymore and they continue to lie and slander us about how horrid we all are.

    they hide in the org. behind this facade of "christianity" and it makes me want to vomit.

    your mom and my mom live in this bubble of illusion and stepping out of this dream would just be too much honesty for them.

    it's sad, but what are you going to do.

    I'm glad you have your siblings. I have mine also, and it helps you get through the mess that was your life when you were a kid.

  • GoingGoingGone
    GoingGoingGone

    Oh..... My.... God....... This could be my mother.

    Abusive, only more emotional than physical.... Looks amazing for her age.... Intelligent, charming, charismatic.... Physically beautiful.... And she has alienated every person in her family. Two different husbands, four children, her mother, her father. She is the Model JW... Super Holy... and she has spent her life slandering her children all over town. Even when I was a pioneer; when I was happily married; when I was a model JW myself - even then, she could not say enough bad about me. Then she'd smile to my face and act like she was so happy to see me.

    I finally stopped caring what she said. If people want to believe her, I don't care anymore. The people who tend to believe her lies are usually very gullible, or very petty. When she started slandering my kids, too, I cut her out of my life. I want nothing more to do with her.

    (((((purps)))))

    GGG

  • JWdaughter
    JWdaughter

    I see it all the time in my own family. We have murderers in my family that feel superior to those of us who left or never joined.The others have issues also that from the outside look bad but they are in the org. And they did this stuff while IN the org. . .I am eternally grateful that the most psycho things in my family are extended family. My mom has some big issues, but she actually loves us. I am blessed and want to thank you for helping me keep some perspective when I am impatient with the twaddle I hear coming out of her, and their mouths.

    Shelly

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