I am new here!HI EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!

by megsmomma 20 Replies latest jw friends

  • megsmomma
    megsmomma

    I have been a lurker here for a few months and feel like I know you all already. My story is (of course) similar to everyone else's. Basically my mom became a JW when I was 10. My sister and I had to be in it with her, and I wanted to go along because I wanted to please Jah...and have lots of furry animals in the New system. I was married when I just turned 18 to a "little Jesus"...who ended up actually being gay...(but never acted on it....) So, we had a baby when we were 24 and I had BAD postpatum depression and my life fell apart. So, I ended up leaving the borg, my hubby and child....I disassociated myself.. ( I knew I had no chance of having her with me, since I was going to die at armegedon) My life was a real mess....just like they said it would be (since Jah hated me ) Well.....7 years later I am re-married to a real Christian, have a 5 month old...and found the "real" Jesus....and finally have been set free from the borg! PRAISE THE LORD!!!!! I am disowned by my mom....and I have to deal with my mistakes from being so messed up nefore and leaving my first daughter. She is 8 now, and I am always worried about her disowning me....but since she has a sissy now, I think my ex will let her be around me in hopes she can save her sister. My ex is an elder now, and remarried a 17 yr old.....Poor girl. I am so glad that I now know what to tell my daughter to explain that the religion is false, when the time comes. I just recently foud the courage to find out what the "truth" is fop myself..and have a real relationship with God now. This is it in a nutshell....but thank you all for posting great things here that has really helped me discover truths.

    Your true sister,

    Lyndi

  • Legolas
    Legolas
    My ex is an elder now, and remarried a 17 yr old.....Poor girl.

    Welcome to the board!

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Wow, what a story. Welcome to the forum. I hope you find the support you need.

    A question if I may, How old was the [now elder] ex when he married a 17 yr. old? I only ask because a "mature brother" would know better.

  • MidwichCuckoo
    MidwichCuckoo
    "mature brother"

    Lol - now THERE'S an oxymoron (sorry, couldn't resist)

    Welcome megsmomma

  • vitty
    vitty

    Hi and welcome

    Did he tell you he was gay ?

    And if he is, fancy him marrying another poor woman ( child )

  • drew sagan
    drew sagan

    Welcome to the board. Glad to see you where able to put your life back togeather. Looking forward to hearing more about you. -drew

  • megsmomma
    megsmomma

    My ex was 28 when he married her. He is now 31 and she is 20. I feel that he should have known better, due to the fact that we were so young when we got married...and there is NOWAY you are ready at that age. However, I think for her, it seemed like a "fun" thing...to have a child to distract you at the meetings, and an excuse to not go in service, ect. Now, it is really sad because my daughter says she and her "mommy Rhonda" cuddle on the couch and watch TV a-lot together because her dad is gone all the time....elders crap, ect. I am glad, however that Rhonda is so good to her, and she is loved there.

  • megsmomma
    megsmomma

    The whole gay thing went like this...

    We were both virgins when we got married. My worldly aunt gave me a "joy of sex" book that he made me throw away...the drawings were too explicit..lol! Any ways...we had a miserable sex life and he said he just didn't feel attracted to wemon. He never admitted he was gay, but he did admitt he had a porn problem, and with him not being attracted to wemon, I put 2&2 together. That was the last straw, because it was 5 years into the marriage when he told me these things, along with the news that he was "abused" by a worldly male cousin at age 12...and cousin was 13. I was in the throws of the PP depression at that time and I just couldn't take it, so I left. Wish I knew what I knew now. I would have gotten my baby....but I had been home schooled and had no additional education....so I was set up or failure. Plus....my family all took his side. No one really knew the extent of it, but said we needed to stay together even if we have seperate bed rooms. UGH!

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Tough situation. This site is very much like free therapy. It helps to vent, and you find support. But, if we pry too much or someone goes on telling you what you should do about a situation, remember our advice was FREE, and sometimes you get what you paid for. It sounds like you are going to be alright.

  • fullofdoubtnow
    fullofdoubtnow

    Hi megsmomma and welcome to the forum

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