blondie: The real killer is the almost completely hidden policy of determining that sexual misconduct has taken place if 2 people of the opposite sex (or a known homosexual) stay overnight unchaperoned.
I agree. That is the most Pharisaical one of the lot, IMO. It need not even be overnight, I know of two instances where the decision was to disfellowship when it wa only some hours, one during the day, the other at night. Both parties swore they did nothing illicit. The axe fell regardless.
Respectfully,
AuldSoul