I guess its good that I now know where I stand with at least ONE of my disfellowshiped sons. (I have THREE.) I told him (in a joking tone just to feel him out) today that I really would like to know the names of the brothers on the committee that DF'ed him. He asked why, and I told him that I thought they might like a gift subscription to Playgirl. - His response? "Dad, that OFFENDS ME!" All I can say is that his true believing Mom has done a good job on him. As for me, I'm rather depressed right now.
Where I stand...
by Justice-One 16 Replies latest jw friends
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AuldSoul
Justice-One: As for me, I'm rather depressed right now.
Give it time, m'good man. Give it time. He's YOUR son, after all. Keep that in mind, and give it time.
Respectfully,
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BabaYaga
Dang.
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blondie
I know you were just thinking out loud, but I think if you actually sent a magazine like that to someone without their permission it is considered a crime and a person could be prosecuted for it.
I don't think I would have advised you to do it or found it amusing either.
Blondie (no prude just wouldn't want someone to do the same to me)
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becca1
Maybe that's not the right tactic to use with this particular son. Think about what makes him tick, who he really is before you say anything. He may find Playboy objectionable for reasons that have nothing to do with the WT His response may have nothing to do with defending the Society.Or maybe he just thinks it's yucky to talk about Playboy with Dad..
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Justice-One
I know you were just thinking out loud, but I think if you actually sent a magazine like that to someone without their permission it is considered a crime and a person could be prosecuted for it.
It was just a comment off the top of my head to try and feel him out. I would never waste my money on the whip cracking Overseers. But anyway, thanks for making me feel even worse than I did a minute ago.
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Justice-One
He may find Playboy objectionable for reasons that have nothing to do with the WT His response may have nothing to do with defending the Society.Or maybe he just thinks it's yucky to talk about Playboy with Dad..
Well, for one thing I said PlayGIRL not PlayBOY. I thought it more to the liking of your typical Overseer. And as for his reaction... he has known since childhood that his Dad has a sick and twisted sense of humor. Besides, it kinda removes all doubt when he continued and said something to the effect of "just because I'm disfellowshiped, doesn't mean I don't think its not the truth." My heart just about broke.
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Justice-One
Give it time, m'good man. Give it time. He's YOUR son, after all. Keep that in mind, and give it time.
Thanks Auldy. It just hurts sometimes more than others when I think about the fact that I'm not allowed to voice my opinion to my wife or kids. I have heard "keep those thoughts to yourself" more than anyone should have to.
And the sad thing is that most of the times I have been told that, it for asking simple questions like "how can the Society be spirit directed, and at the same time not be inspired?"
Yup, I'm to keep evil apostate thoughts like that to myself!
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AuldSoul
Justice-One: It just hurts sometimes more than others when I think about the fact that I'm not allowed to voice my opinion to my wife...
I don't have kids, but I have a wife who I love dearly. I understand what you meant and the spirit behind why you're depressed because I am living it, too.
I'm taking my own advice and giving it time. Heck, BigTex gave Nina 13 years! I'm not hurting abuot it so badly right now, so I build you up. Next month, maybe I'll need you to tell me what I just told you, yeah?
That's what support is all about, m'man. Us supporting each other hurts the WTS worse than ANYTHING they have ever faced, it will eventually mean the end of that filthy organization..
Respectfully,
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Justice-One
I'm not hurting abuot it so badly right now, so I build you up. Next month, maybe I'll need you to tell me what I just told you, yeah?
You gotta a deal my friend. Manoman, sometimes life just really sucks. It really does feel like when you are already down, somewhere, somehow, someone is going to find a way to kick you in the nuts. I have got so much on my plate right now, with 12 units of college, the homework, my job, my psycho neighbor, and now this little "insult to injury." Sometimes I feel like I should just quit talking altogether, and live in a little shell.