Who is your Best Friend?And why?

megsmomma

I ask this because I have a hard time making and keeping friends since I have left. My husband is my best friend now....but he is my only friend. I do have some wemon friends, but I don't like to get too close. I feel like I am a private person, and that may be why I mainly just hang out with my family, but I also think I have "issues" making friends because I had SO MANY "friends" while in the BORG that dropped me like a hot potatoe, and even told me they hated me when I da'd. (Not that I expected them to still be my friends...I knew what the Da'ing would cause) I think of many here as my friends, but I still think I am lacking in the area of having the face to face type of friends. So, am I the only one that has this "problem"....Is it me, or are many affected by the reality of losing so many friends in one fell swoop that it has made them wary of making new ones?

becca1

My husband and my daughter.

juni

My daughter and another person I cannot name.

A lot of people can be your "friend", but a true friend is there for you, does not judge you, you can bare your soul to them and they are reasonable w/practical help because they have your best interests in mind.

Juni

whyizit

I have several "best friends".

They are all unique and special for different reasons. One is my confidant. I can tell her anything and I can trust her.

Another is not someone that I trust with private issues, because she ultimately cannot keep a secret, but she is my shoulder to cry on. She is very helpful when I am down. She encourages me and she understands my pain.

Yet another is my "fun friend". She doesn't do so well with the secrets or the shoulder to cry on, but she makes me laugh like no one else! She could give Robin Williams a run for his money.

And another one yet, is my spiritual "mom". She knows how and when to pray with and for me. She is very in tune to what is going on with me on a deep "inner man" level.

I can't really say that only one of them is my best friend, but that they are more my family. They are sisters and brothers that I have chosen for myself. We serve each other in different capacities and we try to over-look minor irritations. No one is perfect and we all rub each other the wrong way occasionally. But friends are people who, when you make a fool of yourself, don't feel that you did a permanent job.

As we grow older, we don't get to spend as much time together as we would like. But we still love and care for each other and make time for lunch or coffee. Some of us came together from interest in similar hobbies. Some from meeting at church. Some from being neighbors. From working together. Or from school.

If you take a class or join a club, you are bound to find people who are potential friends. You will be drawn together with certain ones. Some will turn out to be duds, others will be life-long family. Enjoy the journey!

Jeepthing

No, you are not alone. I had same problem. Infact, my best friend(since we were in 7th grade and before we became jw) told me she was never true friend and hates my guts now just because me and my whole family decided to stopped going to meetings. We told her we are no longer want to get involve with jw because we don't agree with the teachings of jw. Funny thing was while I was still jw we talked about how jw teachings are not all right and we often disagreed with things that were going on in her kh and other khs. She even told me she couldn't bring anyone to this mess because of all those hyprocricy and abuse. But soon as I told her about our decision she dropped me like a hot pancake. She even accused us for being apostates and won't let her kids talk to our kids( they are cousins by marriage). She is going around accusing us as apostates but no one da or df us here in our kh even the elders knew about us and most of kh people know about us. In fact most of jws are agree with some teachings are wrong and don't make sense and we used to talked about(seriously) but soon as we stopped they stopped associating with us. Funny. When we see them they are polite and friendly but avoid coming around here except one friend of mine(still loyal jw).

daystar

Let's see...

My son. I don't think I need to explain why.

Brigid here on JWD. She's everything to me and she always has been. We visited each other in our dreams from a very early age. She is my friend, my lover and the guide to my unconscious. We speak our own language, verbal and non-verbal.

A guy I've known since we were 8 or so, named John. He's a character and our lives have gone different directions, but he's like a brother to me. We really became friends after we had a little impromptu boxing match at school one day where I thought I was protecting another friend (a JW) from him. We were rather equally matched. No black eyes, but there were some painful bruises.

diamondblue1974

Brigid here on JWD. She's everything to me and she always has been. We visited each other in our dreams from a very early age. She is my friend, my lover and the guide to my unconscious. We speak our own language, verbal and non-verbal.
A guy I've known since we were 8 or so, named John. He's a character and our lives have gone different directions, but he's like a brother to me. We really became friends after we had a little impromptu boxing match at school one day where I thought I was protecting another friend (a JW) from him. We were rather equally matched. No black eyes, but there were some painful bruises.

OMG...this is freaky your experiences are similar

Sirona definately falls into this category, we connect on a great number of levels; we also have shared the same dream (and have done so even when we were younger) which is why I said this was freaky. Shes the one person that gets me.

Dave, who I have known since I was 11 also is like a brother to me; we met at a quickbuild prebuild and decided that because we couldnt batter the other into submission we would fair better as friends; this is the way it has stayed to this very day. We grew up together; we drank underage together; we pissed off the elders together; we also left the Borg together. We even went our own seperate journeys and ended back as though time had not even passed.

Db74

daystar

OMG...this is freaky your experiences are similar
Sirona definately falls into this category, we connect on a great number of levels; we also have shared the same dream (and have done so even when we were younger) which is why I said this was freaky. Shes the one person that gets me.
Dave, who I have known since I was 11 also is like a brother to me; we met at a quickbuild prebuild and decided that because we couldnt batter the other into submission we would fair better as friends; this is the way it has stayed to this very day. We grew up together; we drank underage together; we pissed off the elders together; we also left the Borg together. We even went our own seperate journeys and ended back as though time had not even passed.

Well, I guess we'll have to start planning a trip to meet up some day!

Are you our doppelgangers I wonder?

daystar/diamondblue (eh... both start with "d"?)

brigid/sirona (same number of letters, similar spirituality)

john/dave (same number of letters, same sort of very common first name... and lots of firsts together)

I know, it's a stretch.

fullofdoubtnow

My boyfriend. He was my only friend when I exited.

GermanXJW

A former collegue from work. His granny is a JW as well. He approached me when I was still a die-hard JW. We are from the same area and fans of the same soccer club. It has developed into a real strong friendship. The only one I truely have.

Who is your Best Friend?And why?

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