I left for a while and no bugger noticed!!!
Maybe the big goodbye is to make sure we dont miss it.
Im all for a bit of drama myself, next time I leave im also going to sacrifice a cat if 10 posters dont PM me and beg me not to!
Hello/Goodbye (I Don't Know Why I Say Hello/I Say Goodbye) - What Gives?
by BizzyBee 27 Replies latest jw friends
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ballistic
I regularly leave the board and no-one bats an eyelid, although another board once speculated I'd been banned, censored, beheaded or somehow replaced with a doppleganger before being abducted by aliens.
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katiekitten
Ballistic - I ALWAYS miss you when you go. I just cant be bothered to PM you and let you know!
(seriously beachball, I do miss you when you go walkabout)
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ballistic
awrrrrr bless.
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luna2
Some folks have periods of their life that are especially busy, enough so that they know they won't have the time or energy to post much...so they let the board know. More of a courtesy than anything really.
Others are having a bad day or are feeling low and maybe decide that all the posting they do on the board(s) is detrimental to them so they say farewell...only to reevaluate when they are feeling better (which could be in a rather short period of time) and decide they want to continue posting.
Burn out too contributes. They ususally intend to return. Some say a goodbye, some don't. Depends on the person.
A few decide that they are done with this phase of their life (which is great, honestly). The unfortunate thing is when they think that the world revolves around them and that everyone who is anyone should think and feel the same way they do. They get almost angry at people who haven't felt the need to "move on", and have decided that those who continue to post and discuss JW issues are "losers". In their vast superiority and wisdom, they decide that they must let everyone know this.
Personally, except for that last group, I don't mind. People do what they feel they need to do. I don't mind wishing them well when they leave or welcoming them again when they come back. I've learned to relax a bit and not take these things too seriously.
LOL @ kk and ballistic. Yeah, I've dropped out a couple of times too...I wasn't missed either. Maybe I should have made a big announcement.
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jaguarbass
Some people are very theatrical, drama queens. It takes all kinds to make a world.
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AlmostAtheist
Maybe they've TRIED to leave before, but keep getting sucked back in. "Well, I'll just peek in on this one last thread, then I am DONE."
So the "goodbye" is meant to give them a little momentum and help them get away for awhile.
But after they're gone, they realize they only needed a break, and so return.
Or maybe not. But it's a thought, eh?
BTW, I'm leaving JWD!
Ok, I'm back. ;-)
Dave
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itsallgoodnow
I generally assume people are drama queens or are trying to make a statement because they are angry about something going on. But I can understand if a person just feels like they are getting too much of this message board and want to break the addiction. Telling everyone goodbye might make them feel like they must stop posting completely, but because some come back and then don't post as much, I figure the goodbye and the long break was all it took to break them of an internet addiction that was not healthy.
I took a long break for around 6 months one time... didn't stop in for a few months at all. Then started stopping in and only lurking, but not regularly. That served to break my addiction. I no longer feel the urge to look at JWD at the office, because I shouldn't do that anyway, and that's a nice thing.
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kid-A
Bizzy Bee:
You beat me to the punch...I was about to start a "whats with all the phony good-bye threads" ??!! LOL.......
While there have been some genuine good-bye threads, I gotta say 90% of these threads end with the poster saying "good-bye", having everyone offering their love, support, best wishes and or pity, and then starting another new thread a couple hours or days later.
I cant explain it. Attention seeking? Loneliness? The need for cyber-hugs? Whatever the case I do find it disingenous and a tad manipulative. Frankly, its rather difficult to take a poster seriously after an incident like that.
Geezuz, I mean at least stay off the board for a few days after starting one of these farewell threads to give the appearance of being genuine!!! LOL...
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Amazing
Hi BizzyBee,
Some who say good bye do so because they really have mixed feelings ... and want to break free from JW talk and move on ... then, for some reason unknown to them, they feel that they need to come back for a few more comments, only to get back into the whole pattern again. I don't begrudge them this, though I can understand how you feel manipulated.
About three or four years ago, I was put under an extreme attack by some JWD posters for no good reason ... but for some reason, I was the brunt of their frustrations and became an unwilling scapegoat. It cost me some friendships on this board ... and worst of all, few of my friends stood up to get involved and comment in my favor. As a result, I posted a long good-bye ... as I was hurt. But, about a month later I came back fighting, and buried (with words) the one poster who started it all. I continued on posting and eventually, time healed the wounds.
I stayed on the board a long time, not to heal from the JWs, as I did that years ago. Rather, I wanted to help other newer ex-JWs by being there and supporting them and helping with their transition ... and to make more new friends. To some who move on, they may not see that staying here is NOT about being stuck in ex-JW-ism, but about being of service to people we care about ... our way of doing good though we too were harmed.
When I was really ready to move on, I just got busy with other things, and no longer had the time. I didn't even think about moving on, or posting good-byes. Soon, I realized that many months, or nearly a year had slipped by before coming back to the board. Now, I post when I feel like it ... and when I don't, I don't feel empty or like I am missing something. Also, coming back after many months of absense, I found that many I knew had gone, and others who didn't know me were now the star posters ... so, in a sense, I have also let go of being a main regular who was well known on campus ... and this has been good for me ... to just let it go.
Jim Whitney