I remember Dmouse. Your story scared the poop out of me when I was first having doubts. I was sure I would be divorced and/or living on the sofa until I was kicked out or had to leave.
I'm proud of the stand you took for your own happiness. It also makes me feel good to know that your children have made wise choices too.
It gives me hope for my children.
Hang in there.
I don't know your situation completely, but perhaps if you feel it is the right thing to do, offer your wife a helping hand. Only you know the best thing to do though.
Good luck to you and your children. Perhaps introducing your daughter to jwd, under your supervision when possible, will give her some of the association she needs. Then again, at 15 maybe isn't the right age. just brainstorming.