Suggestions for a cranky, stressed husband....all suggestions welcome..... (page 3)

Jef

Dont be afraid to do the same thing over and over. If there is something he likes say for example a foot rub and you did it and he still upset. That doesn't mean it wasn't helpful. Maybe he would like another or just for longer. My point is there is probably things you do that are helpful just because they don't change everything doesn't mean they aren't valuable. So think of what works and do it more. It can have the effect of having two wives. Twice the positive care but no additional person to hover with nagging.

I think that you rock improving yourself to be a better mate is an awesome trait!

PaulJ

If I can I play some sport, always gets rid of stress. If I'm after a short term stress-fix I listen to some music- usually Nirvana and that seems to get all my stress out.

gordon d

At the risk of being crude....
It's not the sex... it's the Enthusiasm!
And it might require the KIND of sex where he doesn't have to really DO anything, once in a while.
-----Watch the movie "Parenthood"

Men need to be needed... but they WANT to be WANTED!

As far as anger towards "idiots"... try getting him away from "idiots". Just please, don't try what makes YOU feel better.

Sorry.. am I sharing a little too much about ME here?

good luck!

Does he have any friends???

Scully

get him to the doctor for a full physical including a Thyroid test and a PSA.

Yeah nothing like laying on a cold exam table and hearing the sound of latex gloves being snapped on, followed by the phrase "turn your head and cough" to relieve a guy's stress levels.

Stealth453

There is nothing bigger in the world for a guy to feel but when his lover and partner puts her arms around him, hugs him, look deep into his eyes and tell him you believe in him.

I am 100% with you on this one. Just tell him you understand and believe in him, and then dive into some hot a$$ $lapping porno $ex. If that doesn't work....try again. hehe

Forscher

Sex may be great, but it isn't a cure-all.

Does your Hubby have another diversion, a hobby or something he can lose himself into once in awhile? There are so many possibilities for that and just as long as it is something he likes to do, and preferably something he can more or less do alone unless he is the type who prefers things he can do with you and the kids (there are guys like that), it can do wonders. The key is to have something that wil get his mind off his stressors and along paths that bring him enjoyment.

The advise to allow him space to himself he can call all his own and retreat to by himself is good as well. Every once in awhile a man needs a place he can go to and kick back and put his feet up and relax.

The advise to get him a physical is also good, though it certainly would have to be done in an innocuous manner. I hope you find whast you need in all these posts friend.

Forscher

jeanniebeanz

Sorry, not enough information, I guess.

Hubby recently ended up in the emergency room, we thought it was a heart attack, which it was but not for the reasons you might guess. Turns out that his crabbiness, exhaustion, lack of ability to find joy in anything was the result of an inactive thyroid gland. It was slowly shutting him down, including his heart and I just thought he was crabby. It has taken since July this year to get him back on track, but his health is still poor resulting in any number of very bad days... chest pains, anxiety attacks, he has been unable to work since the 17th of July...progress is slow, but there is progress. I could never get 'Super-dude' to the doctor because he feared the 'latex glove' and I didn't want to push him because it pissed him off. I sincerely regret not being willing to take the heat for pushing him. If I had been, we may have been spared over $9 k in doctors bills and a miserable year.

Get your husband to the doctors if this has been going on for more than a couple weeks, other comments not withstanding.

Jean

jeanniebeanz

Okay then, sex in the cave followed by rich food.

On a lighter note, I have to say that the above made me laugh out loud... :) J

Scully

Hi Jeanniebeanz:

Sorry to hear that your hubby hasn't been well. You're quite right that underlying health issues can cause people to behave out of character. Things like thyroid problems, diabetes, depression (just to name a few things) can contribute to alterations in mood and perceived stress levels. Getting some guys to go to the doctor though, is a pain in the butt... and I don't have a suggestion for making them do something that they don't want to do, other than to not blame yourself for the consequences of his choice to not go see the doctor when you first suggested it to him rather than allowing the situation to deteriorate to the point of a crisis in your family.

I hope your hubby makes a full recovery very soon. I apologize if my attempt at facetious humour was offensive.

Love, Scully

Highlander

When we're cranky, just leave us alone. When we want to talk about what's bothering us, then we will talk about it. If you're always 'in our face' trying to make us men feel better, you

will only succeed in making us more cranky. Bottom line: Just give us the space we need, and after enough time we'll be feeling pretty good.

Suggestions for a cranky, stressed husband....all suggestions welcome.....

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