2alcholicparents:$$$ 1jwabusivemother:$# Being screwed up for life:priceles

by luvbug2007 15 Replies latest jw experiences

  • luvbug2007
    luvbug2007

    My story is simple really.. Sorry its kida long

    Mother was dfd in 1975, during this time we were free to celebrate all holidays. During this time were were livng overseas, where my grandparents were missionaries. They left soon after my my mothers dfing and came back to the states. They rarely had contact with her while she was "rebelling" and not going to meetings to redem herself to the elders. During this time she meet her second hubby my dad, they both were drunks and would beat on eachother, and they both cheated on eachother.

    Flash fowared 1991 we came to the states, and life as i knew it was over. That was the last holidays we would celebrate. My mother started dragging us to meetings, my father would not go, he had other things he had to do.. Like inviting other women over while we were out being bored out of our minds. They still drank a lot and still beat on eachother. I even remember them taking my savings (piggy bank) to by drinks and cigs for them. Even though the rent was past due and there was no food.

    1993 dad ships all of us including our mother to Missouri to live with her folks. Parents get divorced, never see dada again. This is pure HELL! She was reinstated in 1993 and welcomed back in to the family. Much of my time as a child is blacked out, for good reason I assume. During this time, my mother really started to abuse me. Out of 4 kids she picked me out. She would beat me with anyting handy from high heel shoes to belt buckles to fly swater to bear hand on bear bum. She even would bunch me in the face with her guady rings.She punched me so hard once he opened up my eye, i had to get stiches. I would be laying on the floor and out of no where she would command my younger sister to kick me on my back. She would also beat me in my ears, and as a result i am partially deaf in one ear. She also threw me down stairs, as well as threw a whole container of sharp knives at me. This went on and got worse for many years till i left hom at 18. The elders knew about this, and when they apprroaced me a few years back about why I left this was no. 1 on my list, that they knew about that abuse..You know what they said!! That they did not and even if they did they could not do anything about it, because they would be coming in between family.

    She was dfd again cause she let a married man move in her house, she cared more about him and his child than her own. It was sick he was very improper with me, and it took my bf at the time (not a jw) to put him in his place. finally i had enough and left home.

    She was reinsated again but does not attend but still claims to follow. None of her kids talk to her. My aunt and granny are sill devout jws. And look down upon me for marying out of the jw religion. I dated a jw just before I left, he was a psyco and stalked me. We were close to getting married when we broke up. And when we broke up my aunt finally confessed that he had harresed another jw women to the point she had to move and change her name. And that he was abusive. When i asked why she did not tell me this while we were dating she said it would be gossiping. Holy hell, I could have married him and she (they) would have just watched and withheld.

    I will add more later, sorry if its to much.

  • Abandoned
    Abandoned

    (((luvbub2007)))

    No wonder your avatar is a baby giving the governing body the finger.

  • Junction-Guy
    Junction-Guy

    So sorry to hear of your abuse. Abuse is rampant in the JW organization. The Elders lied to you when they said they could'nt come between the family---meddling in family affairs is what they do best,(besides lying). Be thankful you're out of that cult. Welcome.--Dave

  • Cellist
    Cellist

    Wow, you've been through alot. I'm glad you escaped!

    Cellist

  • Honesty
    Honesty

    I'm happy that you are out of that arrangement and can get on with your life.

    The elders sure don't mind coming between families when one decides the Watchtower Society is a false religion and quits.

  • joanne_
    joanne_

    Holy S#$t!! girl, you have been through too much, I hope things are better for you now. You seem like a strong person to see everything for what it is. Good for you for walking away!

    joanne

  • fullofdoubtnow
    fullofdoubtnow

    Hi luvbug and welcome to the board.

    You have been through an awful lot, I am happy that you are away from all that now.

  • bernadette
    bernadette

    Hi luvbug, welcome

    I'm really sorry that you've had such a terrible life.

    Unfortunately elders are so busy slaving for the wts they ignore the vulnerable, suffering ones.

    this is a good place to heal

    love

    bernadette

  • Legolas
    Legolas

    Welcome to the board!

  • diamondblue1974
    diamondblue1974

    Sorry to hear your story, it reminds me very much of someone I know in similar circumstances - the WTS is a breeding ground for abusive parents; not all of them are abusive but where there is a tendency it is allowed to go on.

    I hope you heal and find what you are looking for on here.

    DB74 (Gary)

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