You're absolutely right about the Apostate thing, In the JW world nothing is worse than an apostate, except for a born again, and sometimes they are synonymous. Even though the WT Society is very anti-gay, most JW's that I knew would not be floored by someone being gay, every congregation had one or two presumed gay brothers or sisters, everyone talked about it, but nothing was usually done unless they were found to be living the lifestyle. You know there was always one brother or sister who refused to get married always with the excuse that they were waiting for the new system. Well anyway good luck with your mom.
It finally happened!
by Bstndance 11 Replies latest jw friends
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Dear Bstndance,
Sorry for you grief - I can relate to so much of what you say though my situation was not identical. I say "was not" because the turmoil has passed and peace now prevails. My relating what happened [details won't be mentioned] is not meant to be judgmental nor advising you what to do.
I was about to be defrauded financially and my reputation ruined. This over several years. The elders made matters worse through the application of WT policy, which advocates conditional love and the notion that your existence is "absolute spiritual endangerment" to all. I was in hiding, in exile. When my righteous indignation to right the wrongs actually backfired on me - certain unexpected situations prevented me from doing what I thought was "right" - I reverted to something I'd really never done before. I turned the other cheek. I fed the enemy. I blessed the one cursing me. Honest. As a JW, I was used to being God's tool to bring all erring ones to justice, if you get my drift. Pretty self-righteous and arrogant, but really sincere!
It ended up that fair and honest friends and family (JWs and non-JWs) came to my aid, and legally I came out all right. It's not that I wanted them to take sides, but they saw the injustice and essentially overturned the effects of the wrongs done me. To this day I find it hard to believe how it all turned out to my benefit. My point is that Jesus did speak up when needed, but knew when to turn the other cheek. We never seem to get it right. You love your mom; she's suffering, and maybe a lot of it is her fault - but blame much of her grief on WT flogging. I do feel YOUR pain though - BELIEVE ME! I wish you peace, love, and an end to this emotional roller coaster ride.
Love,
CoCo