Constructive Criticism - Sincere or Malignant?

by compound complex 11 Replies latest jw friends

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Dear Friends,

    When I was a kid I remember that the Lincolns [the automobile] of the late '50s had "canted" quad headlights. In that case, canted means slanting with respect to a particular line. In going over certain points in my fave dictionary [A DICTIONARY OF CONTEMPORARY AMERICAN USAGE, Bergan Evans and Cornelia Evans, 1957, p. 115], I noticed the word "cant" in a new setting: "constructive criticism. [...] has become one of the cant phrases of the day." In this sense, new to me, cant can be defined as "the phraseology peculiar to a religious class or sect." and "the insincere use of pious phraseology." - WEBSTER'S NEW COLLEGIATE DICTIONARY, 1977, p. 163.

    Following the Evans' opening comments on constructive criticism, we read:

    "It is true that under the guise of criticism mockery and hatred often vent their spite, and what professes to be a fair and EVEN HELPFUL analysis of a situation or policy becomes a malignant attack. But the proper answer to that is to expose the malignance and so point out that it is not criticism at all. Most whining for constructive rather than destructive criticism is a DEMAND FOR UNQUALIFIED PRAISE, AN INSISTENCE THAT NO OPINION IS TO BE EXPRESSED OR COURSE PROPOSED OTHER THAN THE ONE SUPPORTED BY THE SPEAKER...." [CC: emphasis]

    In a recent thread regarding the 2007 YEARBOOK, we read and commented on the words of the Governing Body: they truly love the sheep and are interested in the welfare of the flock, but in any of their protestations of love, there is the explicit understanding that what they tell JWs is for their own good and.... [see the emphasized text above]

    So then - do you have any "constructive criticism" to offer? The tables are turned and the GB could well benefit by listening to and applying our gentle suggestions.

    Compound-Complex

  • MsMcDucket
    MsMcDucket

    The GB cant (pun intended) tell their shat from shantolla!

  • becca1
    becca1

    I always thought those were "cated" headlights. You know, like cat eyes.

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Greetings MsMcDucket and Becca1,

    Thanx for your replies!

    Becca - I did some reading and found that "cate," often used in the plural -"cates" - is rich or delicate food, whereas "canted" is used, as an adjective, in this manner - "having canted [slanted] corners or sides." Thank you for teaching me a new word! CATE!

    CoCo

  • LongHairGal
    LongHairGal

    CompoundComplex:

    The only constructive criticism that is sincere comes from people who love you and have your best interests at heart. If it comes from anybody else it may be tinged with maliciousness and with a view to THEIR best interests and not yours. It also has to be done gently and at the right time (not when you are depressed or vulnerable). It should not knock you down or make you feel annihilated. The person should be able to reason with you to make you see the sense of what they are saying and how you will be benefited by it. Unfortunately, I have no constructive criticism for the GB.

    LHG

  • becca1
    becca1

    Thanks for the constuctive critisism of my use of words.

    You do know I'm just kidding, right?

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Dear LHG and becca1,

    Got your point, becca! Thanx for getting back to me. CATES!

    LHG - beautifully expressed! Timing is of the essence. Love builds up. Given the points made at the beginning, I infer that the r&f are expected to acquiesce at all levels and heap praise onto the leaders, who brook no dissent. The leaders, in full control over the minds and hearts of their captives, spout their version of reality and somehow themselves seem fully convinced of its legitimacy.

    CoCo

  • compound complex
  • Gill
    Gill

    'Constructive Criticism' from the GB, is not meant to build up but to destroy our common sense which is our only defense against their futile, senseless rantings. From the GB, it is always malignant as it is part of their control freakery, to have the R and F, dancing a silly jig to their ridiculous rules and regulations.

    The only constructive criticism I would give the GB is 'Shut up!' and go get a proper job!!

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Dear Gill,

    Well said! Thank you for your timely response. As long as you do as we say, you have nothing to fear! [from the GB]

    CoCo

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