Hi, bit of a newbie. Found this site a couple of months ago, wonderful. My ex used the Borg as a means of control. He used to scream at me and the kids going to the meetings, then get out of the car as Mr Christian. I didn't want to be part of something that would allow that. I did a slow fade,which wasn't hard as most people were appalled at my ex's behaviour anyway. My sons were 16 and 13 when we finally split. My ex has used the org as backup. You just say a few of the right phrases and you're in. He's been df'd 3 times, I think.
My eldest son went with him, and my youngest son eventually went with promises of a motorbike. He came back later. My eldest was quickly baptised, and just as quickly df'd. He followed his father in the cycle of abuse.
My youngest I thought was doing fine, he got engaged at 18, a bit young, I thought. Then is was over, and he went into depression for a couple of years. Then to my shock and horror, he went back to the Borg, he hated sitting there quiet as a kid!
I never heard from him until he had a vehicle accident. I found out he's living a suburb away. I went to see him, he was pleased to see me initially, but a second visit didn't go well. I wrote a letter explaining how I felt about the Borg, so I guess that's the end of that.
My oldest just punched out my daughter in laws new partner. It was bargained down to common assault, we thought he was finally going to get his just desserts, but instead he played the religious card, and the case is dropped! He's going back to the meetings, this is the son that told me to f**k off, and similar wonderful comments. He's learning from his father.
My point, (yes, I do have one!) is the cyclical nature of things. My youngest son will marry a virgin girl within the Borg, have kids, get sick of the hypocrisy and leave, his wife and kids will stay, and the cycle continues.
My eldest will continue to play the Borg game as it suits him, like his father does.
When can I do? Not much, I guess. But I'd like to try and save the youngest.
Thanks, rose petal