Help! Elders are after me-need advice!

love2Bworldly

Hi--3 times this weekend 2 elders came to my door asking for me by name (my kids answered the door). Apparently my JW sister notified the elders about the letter she received from me several months ago and gave them my new address. My letter was very clear about how I felt about the Watchtower Society and I have not stepped foot in a Kingdom Hall in about 15 years, and the last 8 years of that was sporadic at best.

Why should I talk to people I did not invite to my home, when I know they are coming to condemn me? And I already wrote a letter addressed to a Hall in Northern California which I copied my JW sister on. The letter clearly stated that I was attending a new church and that I pretty much felt the Watchtower Society was a destructive cult that broke up families.

Why do they have to question me face-to-face on my beliefs when it's pretty clear I am no longer interested in their religion? Is it just because they get off in attempting to make people feel bad & guilty, or is it a legal issue about clearly identifying me in person so they can disfellowship me? The letter I mailed to the hall in northern California was returned to me, the letter was marked that there was no mail receptacle there so I had the correct address. My sister received a copy of the letter however and apparently shared it with everyone.

I really could care less if they make an announcement about me after all these years, as I have nothing to lose. My JW sister no longer speaks to me because of my letter.

Am I showing them that I'm afraid by avoiding them? It's more a matter that I feel very emotional and angry about the whole JW religion, and I'm not afraid of the elders so much as what my response might be. I'm more worried they would get the wrong impression of me if I get all emotional and angry, I am very happy with my life and I don't want them thinking I'm a whacko apostate.

Any comments or suggestions?

drew sagan

Why not act confused when they arrive at your house. When they ask for you by name act like you don't know what they are talking about, they will quickly get confused and leave. Even if they ever realize that you might have been putting them on they won't come back.

Other than that you can just tell them to leave and never come back, especially since you don't seem to fearful of the concequences.

carla

Can't you answer the door tell them you are not interested in anything they have to say and shut the door? I know it sounds rude but.... Why allow them the satisfaction of even speaking with you when you know ahead of time what the outcome will be? Or take the easy way out and put up a No Tresspassing sign on your door, and don't answer the door. Or have a little fun with them and have the kids yell very loudly, "Mom!! Those strange men are back should we call the police?"

megsmomma

Maybe it is an oppertunity for you to show them a few things.....Like you know the things going on in the BORG....The changes being made, ect...and the realization that there is no way they have God's backing. Since you have nothing to lose......maybe you have something to gain. (Helping cult members...plant a seed) :)

lisavegas420

I agree with megsmomma, but make them call ahead and let you know when they are comming. So YOU have a chance to be prepared. I will no longer talk to them if they drop by unannounced. They have my phone number. They also have a cell phones, so even if they were "just in the neighbood" they can call and see if I'm up for company. That's just rude.

My house...my rules

lisa

LeslieV

Were you ever DF'd for the letter that you wrote? If not, I would guess they are coming to "keep the congregation clean." I like Lisa's expression "My house, My rules." You have already told the JW cult your views, you have nothing to feel obligated to discuss. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of acknowleging them. You need to decide what you are comfortable with, you no longer need to play by their rules.

Leslie

brunnhilde

If you don't care, then send a copy of the letter to the local congs and along with a note that says STAY AWAY. If you want to blast them but you want prior notice (I agree with "My house, my rules") then send a letter stating you're willing to speak with them at a time YOU set. Make them deal with you on YOUR terms, not theirs. They're used to dealing with stupid, frightened sheep, remember? Make it clear you're not one of them. Good luck and keep us posted!

Hannah

I'm more worried they would get the wrong impression of me if I get all emotional and angry, I am very happy with my life and I don't want them thinking I'm a whacko apostate.

I completely understand how you feel. However, emotional and angry is exactly the response they are looking for. Remember, JWs think those who leave the borg are all unhappy and and angry people. You can find all types of quotes like this in the literature. So show them what a happy person you truly are. Blindside them with the kindness they aren't expecting. Be the bigger person. Afterall, you've made a happy life for yourself so flaunt it! These JW elders are just puppets. They don't really have a life except what is outlined to them by the WT. Keep us up to date. Hope all goes well with you. My advice is to get it over with soon--you'll feel better as this won't be weighing on you. Hugs

Hortensia

"Am I showing them that I'm afraid by avoiding them? "

What do you care what they think? You've been out for 15 years, you didn't seek them out, they are seeking you out, you don't have to worry for one tiny second what they think, just put them on the spot about how they got your name, and do they know there are things such as privacy laws, and even organizations like the WTBTS are subject to those laws, do they want a lawsuit for violating your privacy?

I don't know if that is entirely true, but they won't know either and you'll maybe make them think a bit about how f******* much they gossip and toss people's names and private business around.

cultswatter

give em some apostate literature (their own!)

Help! Elders are after me-need advice!

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