by veronica_mars 40 Replies latest jw experiences
Katie, glad to meet you.
Don't underestimate the value of counseling from a mental health professional. People sometimes do things for a reason and mistakes get repeated until the underlying issues get aired out. We can't fix what we don't understand. JWD is the perfect place to understand the WT Society, KH and elders and fix them from hurting us.
peace,
Moshe
Yes I remember Naebs and shari and you! :)
Welcome back!
SPAZnik
Hi Katie, welcome back here.
What phrasiology: discom...bobo....I had to look that up.
1. To cause to be unclear in mind or intent: addle, befuddle, bewilder, confound, discombobulate, dizzy, fuddle, jumble, mix up, muddle, mystify, perplex, puzzle. Informal: throw. Idiom: make one's head reel (or swim) (or whirl). See clear, feelings
2. To cause (a person) to be self-consciously distressed: abash, chagrin, confound, discomfit, discomfort, disconcert, discountenance, embarrass, faze, mortify. Idioms: put on the spot, throw for a loop. See pain
3. To take (one thing) mistakenly for another: confound, mistake, mix up. See correct
4. To put into total disorder: ball up, disorder, jumble, mess up, muddle, scramble, snarl2. Slang: snafu. Idiom: play havoc with. See order Nice word for scrabble......I hope they did pay as much attention to the effect as well as to the cause.
Anyway, have a good time here.
cheers
Borgia
Nice to meet you Katie. What a sad story. I love your honesty and openness.
God bless...Skeptic1914
I wouldn't be able to recall you since I came here after you left, but welcome back, you seem to have gone through quite a few experiences since that time.
So. I did it.
At the meeting today I cracked. The Watchtower study was about Husbands, and I couldn't take it. I got up and left. I sat in the Kingdom Hall parking lot and sobbed.
Then my mom came out to check on me, and I broke down, and told her how much I hated FAKING being a witness. I told her I don't have any desire to be one. And then she told me that she loved me, but was disappointed. How I have to move out so I don't "affect" my siblings. So, I have to move out by May 1st.
Then, when my dad found out... that's when it all hit the fan. They called me Satan, everyone cried. I felt like CRAP!
Now, I am here at Starbucks, not wanting to go home. I feel like a loser, and pathetic.
I don't understand how they (JW's) feel like they can push their beliefs down your throat... but when you try and tell them that you don't agree, they refuse to hear it!
/sighs
What to do... What to do...????
I don't have anything good to say about Jehovah's Witnesses. They claim they are the happiest people on Earth, but then they treat their own family so terrible. Your Dad sounds typical of the JW husband and father.
I'm sure you already know your only answer is to get out... way out... of this situation. If there is any women's crisis centers around, you might want to seek out one of them for help.
Katie, welcome back. I am too new to remember you, but your story is all too familiar.
How will your folks be if you are d/f'd? Do you have a safe place to be and real (non-JW or even JWs with the blinders off) friends? I hope all works out for you and that in the process that you stay healthy and get happy.
Don't worry about your remarriage status with the JWs. You won't ever marry another one of them, YOU know the truth about what happened in your marriage. If you are DF'd, why make it easy for him to remarry? I don't know why the ex JWs care about whether the other one can remarry or not. I guess I don't care to do them any favors OR structure my life around their doctrine and theology. If you ever want to remarry-or just make love again, do it cause you want to. Not because you will set the jerk free to remarry. And don't hesitate to do it because it will help him. He is no longer your concern, nor is his religion. Do what you need to do for Katie.
Not that it matters, but I love your name. It sounds down to earth and happy. I hope you are as happy as someone with your name should be. Take care of yourself.
Edited to say, wow, I just read your last post. You are doing it the hard way, but at least it won't be dragged out forever. I wish I was closer to you-I'd offer you a place to stay. I know that some of the ladies here are more experienced than I with this kind of thing. . .do you have a place to go tonite? Will you be able to find a new home and afford it? I hope your folks don't entirely cut you off, because I am sure they love you and their hearts will break if they follow the WT in this.
Take care Katie!!!
Shelly
I left him then, and never look back. Now the elders say he is the "victim" and I "abandonded him" blah, blah, blah.
Same old BS. The victim is turned into the perpetrator. Welcome back VM.
Warlock
Update:
Well, I missed the meeting tonight. Got a phone call from my mother, letting me know I now have until this weekend to be out.
Life can't get any better than this.
Makes me want to become a Jehovah's Witness all the more... NOT.
