Not pushing the other partner but, instead, letting time pass and being patient is the best approach to pulling someone out.
It worked for my wife too.
It goes like this:
wife: "I'm going to the meeting tonight."
you: "Do wanna a lift?"
15 minutes before the meeting:
you: "hurry up honey. You may get late."
wife: "ok".
She'll get so tired of and confused about your non-resistance that after several months....
you: "hurry up honey. You may get late."
wife: "oh, I actually got a headache. I'm having a horrible period."
you: "ok. Don't bother about dinner. I'll cook tonight, ok?"
And the family will start living happier ever after.
Observador.
My wife has finally seen the light.
by Ironhead 46 Replies latest jw friends
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observador
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jakes
That is great news! We need to hear more stories like this.
jakes
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mcsemike
To Ironhead: (Funny, that should be the name of someone still IN the WT)
I'm very happy for you. If you can get her to bottle whatever helped her, I'll pay $100,000 for it and give it to my wife. Then maybe I'll get her back and also my daughter.
Again, my best to you. This shows the issue very clearly. Did you love your mate and marry HIM/HER? Or did you love someone on the condition that their brain stay programmed in Windows 95. People, we moved on. Windows crashes so we use newer and better software. As the WT changes, people need to reprogram their brains.
If you are ever near the Space Center, email me and we'll go have a drink to celebrate. If you'll be here during a shuttle launch, we'll watch it from my dock.
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dawg
Man, that's awesome.... I'm so ahppy for you!
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twinkletoes
That's WONDERFUL NEWS Ironhead
Welcome to Mrs Ironhead, I hope that she will introduce herself on this forum.
Twinkletoes
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OnTheWayOut
Outstanding story.
I hope to have a similar one, one day.
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jam
happy for you. Question, is it easy too get out of the borg. today then it was yrs ago? I know so many familes with family members out and they are not shun.
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Quandry
Congratulations. Wonderful that you and your wife are on the same page now. It is wonderful that you have each other for support.
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SacrificialLoon
Now that is certianly "good news" worth sharing. :)
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tetrapod.sapien
CONGRATS ironhead and wife!! :)
your story almost sounds just like mine.
happy trails,
tetra