Lisa:
My 13 yr old doesn't really talk much to my parents about the things he and I discuss. He learned along time ago from me that what is discussed in our little family stays in our little family. He made a few mistakes early on when he was younger and mentioned some topics we discussed....and realized what I meant...now he understands that they don't need or have the right to know everything about our lives (which they'd love to know if we'd just share it lol).
In regard to celebrating holidays....it's entirely up to my son... he does feel a bit like it's wrong to do so....so I'm letting him just work thru that. We don't celebrate anything at our home as we live VERY close to my parents and it's just not one of those fights I'm willing to pick atm...my son grew up not celebrating anhthing as did I...we are really not missing it and hey...the not spending money we don't have on gifts thing works too lol (I know! how cheap am I! lol)
Thanks for the welcome....it's reall nice =)