Mysterious letter

by winnie 13 Replies latest jw friends

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  Wasanelder Once

  If someone has a "File", it means that there have been judicial proceedings. There is no "File" kept on each person accept for the publishers card which holds nothing more than a record of hours, baptism date and status as annointed or other sheep. Judicial records of individuals re-instated are to be kept for five years then discarded. I know, I dumped mine when I was an elder and the time limit was up.

  The letter can really be damaging. We had a family move in and the letter said to watch the mother of the family because she was a disturber. It took her a long time to break through that predjudice. She was actually really sweet. Maybe they had trouble with her because one of her kids was molested by an elder in their congregation, you think? Jesus, these people.

  W.Once
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  jgnat

  Sparkplug and winnie, I would like to pass on a word of encouragement. Tom Hanks had a similar childhood, and I am convinced his universal charm is because he had to learn to make new friends quickly. I think he learned a marvellous skill.

  I worried about my nephews as they were growing up. They never finished a single school year in the same school. Mom (my sister-in-law) was running from consequences. Her youngest is a real sweetheart. He's married far too young but he is by far the most personable of all my neices and nephews. On the night of his wedding, he and his fiancee came to visit all of us staying at the local motel. His focus was on us and our comfort. He made us feel so welcome. Now, a year later, they have announced the birth of their first child. My dad is bursting his buttons with pride.

  Dad said, "In the way the world is today, you'd think they have no chance. No chance. But they somehow make it work, don't they? You never know. They may surprise us all"

  Isn't it great that an old cynic like my dad can have such good thoughts in his end of days?
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  rowan

  hehe, I was already DF'd when I moved to this country to start working in a very well known and prestigious institution. elders were not happy about it, and the fact that I was slipping away from their control (they took it out on my parents then, but that is another story).

  the thing is that they "magnanimously" wrote a letter of introduction for me for the new congo. I carried it with me. hehe. how stupid are they? I never went to the meetings for the next year and a half and even though I tried to be good (I still believed back then) after three months (I was THAT good, hey three whole months!!!) I opened the envelope and read the letter. It said something along these lines:

  "This is a letter of introduction for Rowan X, a young woman who was judged and DF'ed for committing loose conduct.

  blah blah blah

  She was DF'ed 11 months ago and requested to be reinstated, we were oblied to decline because she did not study her WT in two ocasions and she missed several meetings. When we informed her of our decision she had a very unbecoming and arrogant reaction against the elders. After she was admonished she humbly recognized the need for her to continue under Jehovah's discipline for a longer period.

  blah blah blah

  we do not know what her conduct is going to be now that she is going to be away from her family home but we hope that she takes to heart what her parents taught her from early childhood (bible verse included blah blah).

  blah blah blah,

  yours brothers, blah blah blah"

  guys, the letter was a page and a half, I am writing what I exactly remember. yes, they wrote that I did not underline my WT study in TWO occasions (they were watching me like hawks). yes, I missed a couple of meetings, ehem, my mom was in the hospital...

  don't you love the part were they say "they do not know what my conduct is going to be now that she is going to be away from the family home"? they were evidently gnawing their teeth because they had lost their control over me .

  To my most estimated elders (not), THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! I embrace life now, I am away from my family home and life is freaking great!

  To the WT: THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! for shooting yourself in the foot everytime you appoint apes as elders, everytime you make even the good guys enforce policies and wake up themselves, for freeing the youngsters instead of helping them back into the fold.

  Oh.... those letters.... their judgement, their transparency, the ehem... grammatical errors, oh dear, yummy read. yummy indeed.

  ps: I make mistakes in english, but it is my second language.

  Rowan

  oh, pss: I shredded the letter
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  jgnat

  THANK YOU!!! for shooting yourself in the foot everytime you appoint apes as elders, everytime you make even the good guys enforce policies and wake up themselves, for freeing the youngsters instead of helping them back into the fold.

  Rowan, great stuff. I also like that you shredded the letter. Empowering.